Clergy Burnout: Recovering from the 70-Hour Work Week... and Other Self-Defeating PracticesIn this highly accessible book, Fred Lehr clarifies the nature and practice of clergy codependence. In twenty-two, short, insightful, and highly readable chapters, filled with many examples and stories from his own life and those of others he has counseled, Lehr identifies the typical forms codependence takes in the life and ministry of clergy: (1) the chief-enabler, the one who keeps things functioning; (2) the scapegoat, the one on whom everything's blamed when it goes wrong, the one who's responsible; (3) the hero, the example, the pure and righteous one; (4) the lost child, the one no one really knows or cares about; (5) the rescuer, the one who saves the day, makes the visit, fixes the problem, makes everything all right again; (6) the mascot, the cheerleader, the one who offers comic relief, brings down the tension level after a heated discussion. |
Contents
Painful Pastoring | 3 |
Signs of Trouble | 4 |
A Scenario | 6 |
Burnout and Codependence | 10 |
Defining Codependence | 11 |
Rules and Roles of Codependence | 12 |
More Characteristics of Codependence | 17 |
Personalities and Codependence | 20 |
An Open Future | 65 |
The Gospel and Recovery from Codependence | 66 |
Developing Spiritual Maturity | 68 |
Discipleship | 70 |
TransitionTransformation | 72 |
Life in the Spirit | 73 |
Spiritual Life Survey | 75 |
Regaining Balance | 83 |
Understanding Personalities and Temperaments | 21 |
Guilty Gus | 22 |
By the Book | 23 |
Gotta Be Right | 24 |
Temperament Characteristics and Boundaries | 25 |
The Church and Codependence | 29 |
The Codependency Graph | 30 |
Interdependence | 32 |
Hidden Codependence | 33 |
Hopelessness | 35 |
Codependency | 36 |
Moving from Codependence to Interdependence | 38 |
Movement to Hidden Codependence | 40 |
Movement to Hopelessness | 42 |
Moving to Interdependence | 45 |
The Institutionalization of Codependence | 47 |
Holiness and Spirituality | 48 |
The Holy Person | 50 |
The Clergyperson as Holy Person | 51 |
From Extradependence to Intradependence | 52 |
From Extradependence to Codependence | 53 |
Some Spiritual Issues | 55 |
Becoming GospelCentered | 61 |
Good News | 62 |
Unconditional Love | 63 |
Advocacy | 89 |
Wholeness | 93 |
A Balanced Life Checklist | 96 |
Stretching and Bridging | 98 |
Stretching | 99 |
Bridging | 101 |
Knowing the Boundaries | 103 |
Do No Harm | 104 |
Definitions and Specific Issues | 106 |
Confidentiality | 107 |
Role Considerations | 108 |
Time Spent with Parishioners | 109 |
Place and Space | 110 |
Money and Gifts | 111 |
Language | 112 |
Summary | 113 |
Boundaries Checklist | 114 |
Becoming Empowered | 118 |
Choosing Our Power Currencies | 120 |
Embracing Empowerment | 123 |
UnTrashing the Temple | 124 |
Personal Assessment | 128 |
Study Guides | 135 |
Notes | 145 |
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