Parenthood and the Newer Psychology: Being the Application of Old Principles in a New Guise to the Problems of Parents with Their Children |
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Page 33 - But there seems to be no manner of doubt, among those whose studies have best qualified them to speak with authority, that the mind of any person, child or adult, is made up of the sum total of all of the experiences through which he has passed since birth, plus every impression that has ever touched him in passing, no matter how fleeting and transitory some of these may have seemed. That is to say, that every thought, feeling, experience, or image that has ever impinged upon one's consciousness...
Page 188 - FORTY me a child until he is seven, and I care not who has him in charge after that.
Page 12 - We shall have more to say on this subject when we come to discuss the relations between spots and futures.
Page 190 - It must be our aim, therefore, to bring up children so that they respect all racial experience, and at the same time learn, in due course, to challenge all authority. Authority must not be regarded as ultimately binding, nor must it be disregarded without respectful consideration.
Page 77 - In these years are formed the main "character trends." These will have "set" or solidified in their permanent molds, by the end of this time ; and nothing that we can do, later in life, will ever undo the harm that neglect and faulty environment and harmful influences have wrought during the first plastic years.
Page 21 - ... play, are some of the least of his troubles. Such an individual will never be able to consummate a happy marriage, the biological end for which we agreed that every individual was fore-ordained, and the emotional acme of human experience. For such a one has never learned to love; he is absolutely lacking in the ability to love, — in the self-forgetting and self-sacrificing way in which mature love functions.
Page 20 - mama's boy," the Fauntleroy type, who is so beautiful and attractive in a book, but so insufferable when met with in real life ! In the last analysis, he is the product of a motherlove so selfish, so exclusive, that his affections have never been allowed to develop beyond the confines of her all-absorptive cravings.
Page 21 - Whatever the cause, we see in the boy or girl fixated at the stage of mother-love preemption, an individual marked for some of the unkindest experiences that can be presented by fate. Extreme sensitiveness, overwhelming homesickness at the slightest provocation, persecution at the hands of the sturdier little rascals with whom the child is thrown while at school or at play, are some of the least of his troubles.
Page xii - The language of the laboratory" is difficult partly because it is technical. On this point an illuminating sentence may be quoted from FH Richardson's introduction to Parenthood and the newer psychology. "The author," says Dr. Richardson, "must employ no technicalities except such as are explained in the text itself, and such as tend to make the subject clearer rather than cloudier.
Page 125 - ... discipline" in the child, disappear ; and how does this important matter of making decisions pass from the governing outsider, into the hands of the individual himself? For it is decision-yielding that constitutes this conception of discipline in the child; whereas it is decision-making that gives the adult the right to be called "well-disciplined.