The Weeping Willow: Encounters With GriefRiveting in their emotional clarity and utterly jargon free, these 30 stories from real life penetrate how we grieve and how we can help those who grieve- whether the griever is oneself, someone we care about, or a client or patient. Lynne Dale Halamish, an internationally respected grief counselor with more than 20 years' experience, and Doron Hermoni, a family physician, researcher, and educator, present vignettes from practice that show how death- lingering, unexpected, violent, or self-inflicted- and the loss of a relationship- to oneself or with a child, sibling, parent, mate, grandparent, or friend- give life to grief, together with the process by which each person fully encounters his or her grief. Each story is no more than two or three pages, and the authors follow each one with a short summary of its teachings and a selection of annotated recent references for those who wish to read more about a topic. Looked at in relief, the stories reveal a master grief counselor at work. |
Contents
JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS SPEAKING TO CHILDREN | 3 |
CHILDREN DEALING WITH IMPENDING DEATH | 11 |
SECURITY FOLLOWING PARENTAL DEATH | 19 |
TALKING ABOUT FEARS | 25 |
IT IS NORMAL TO GROW AFTER TRAUMA | 33 |
TALKING OPENLY ABOUT DEATH | 39 |
ENCOURAGING THE BEREAVED TO EXPRESS THEMSELVES | 47 |
REPERCUSSIONS OF SIBLING DEATH | 53 |
GETTING SOMEONE TO TELL YOU SOMETHING | 107 |
TAKING CHANCES WITH COMMUNICATION | 115 |
COST VERSUS BENEFIT | 123 |
THE CLARITY OF AFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION | 127 |
CHANGING PERCEPTIONS | 133 |
THE TIMING OF DEATH | 139 |
IDENTIFYING THE BEREAVED | 145 |
WHO SHOULD BE PART OF THE MOURNING RITUALS? | 149 |
IMPORTANT DECISIONS NEED CONSCIOUS THOUGHT | 59 |
TAKING CHILDREN TO FUNERALS WHEN WHAT AGE HOW | 65 |
THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LOSING A PARENT AND LOSING A CHILD | 71 |
THE INDIVIDUALS RIGHT TO KNOW | 77 |
THE UNIQUE PERSPECTIVE OF THE INDIVIDUAL | 83 |
LEARN AND PASS THE KNOWLEDGE ON | 89 |
CLASSROOM INTERVENTION AFTER SUICIDE | 95 |
REHEARSING GRIEF ROMANTICIZING DEATH | 101 |
NORMAL GRIEF RESPONSES | 157 |
HOW TO ACT AROUND GRIEVERS | 163 |
EMPATHY BOUNDARIES IDENTIFICATION | 169 |
WHEN YOU ARE DYING YOU ARE STILL ALIVE | 175 |
NORMAL GRIEF | 181 |
IDENTIFICATION OF BEREAVED SIBLINGS WITH THE DECEASED | 185 |
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