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As the title indicates - and a perfectly fitting title for this work, I may add - many of us would be struck dead in our tracks with the realization that what we once thought most important in our lives, really may not be so. Or, perhaps, a more fitting way of wording the prior statement would be that many of us go about things a bit differently than we should. If we were to step back and re-evaluate what we really want out of life, there just may be a way to go about getting it, or something similar, but actually end up getting even more than we bargained for in the end. In Caught In The Headlights, Mr. Phillips discusses ten key areas that everyone, or most everyone, experiences in life. These are as follows: 1) Happiness 2) Self-Esteem 3) Pride 4) Freedom 5) Control 6) Tolerance 7) Forgiveness 8) Success 9) The Big Event 10) The Perfect Body In each section, the author discusses his personal experiences and how he came to realize what each of these things truly mean - not just by definition, or general public ideas/knowledge - but by delving within not only self, but soul searching truth. Mr. Phillips presents his findings in not only a knowledgeable way, but one filled with great humor and interest. He ends each section with what I consider a “summary poem”. I loved this and thought it was very clever. Also, at the beginning of each section, the reader will find a hand drawn cartoon from the author. I think of these cartoons as “humor truth”. Meaning they present a truth of our society, which many overlook, in a humorous and fun way. I loved these, as well. While reading Caught In The Headlights, I found myself agreeing, on many points, with the author. I was especially interested in Mr. Phillips take on true happiness. Often, it is difficult to not think of happiness as that burst of excitement, or rush that one receives when something great happens. I feel that many times, that may be how addictions start - needing to feel that “rush” again and again, which we associate with happiness. However, as the author states, this is more describing of pleasure. How easy it is to mix the two up. While Mr. Phillips settles on peace as the truth of happiness, I would agree, but also attach contentment to that. This is the theme of Caught In The Headlights. Much of what we think we desire and want in life, is actually something else entirely. In summary, at least in my opinion, the book shows how many people in today’s society, are so utterly single minded and suffering from extreme tunnel vision, whether they may realize it or not. Life has become so heartbreakingly fast paced, that many lose sight of what is truly important. It is not ourselves that bring forth true happiness, success and freedom, but it is what we do for those around us. We, as a people, are very important, yes, but it is what we do for others that makes the most impact. By helping others, we in turn help ourselves and bring positive impact into our own lives. This will then bring into our own lives, true happiness, self-esteem, pride, freedom, control, tolerance, forgiveness, success, and pleasure in a possible forth-coming big event. As far as the perfect body goes, well, as long as we take care of ourselves, to the best of our ability, by eating well and physical activity, our bodies will thank us for it greatly. As the old saying goes - a healthy mind and a healthy body go hand in hand. Caught In The Headlights is a short and to the point book, filled with great advice. It is presented in a fun to read way and is a book that everyone would do well to read. Barry K. Phillips blends together many talents - self-help advice, poetry, cartoon illustrating and excellent humor. I advise everyone to grab a copy of this and even have a highlighter handy to highlight those not to be missed points!