The New Codependency: Help and Guidance for Today's Generation (Google eBook)

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Simon and Schuster, Dec 30, 2008 - Self-Help - 288 pages
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In Codependent No More, Melody Beattie introduced the world to the term codependency. Now a modern classic, this book established Beattie as a pioneer in self-help literature and endeared her to millions of readers who longed for healthier relationships. Twenty-five years later concepts such as self-care and setting boundaries have become entrenched in mainstream culture. Now Beattie has written a followup volume, The New Codependency, which clears up misconceptions about codependency, identifies how codependent behavior has changed, and provides a new generation with a road map to wellness.

The question remains: What is and what is not codependency? Beattie here reminds us that much of codependency is normal behavior. It's about crossing lines. There are times we do too much, care too much, feel too little, or overly engage. Feeling resentment after giving is not the same as heartfelt generosity. Narcissism and self-love, enabling and nurturing, and controlling and setting boundaries are not interchangeable terms. In The New Codependency, Beattie explores these differences, effectively invoking her own inspiring story and those of others, to empower us to step out of the victim role forever. Codependency, she shows, is not an illness but rather a series of behaviors that once broken down and analyzed can be successfully combated.

Each section offers an overview of and a series of activities pertaining to a particular behavior -- caretaking, controlling, manipulation, denial, repression, etc. -- enabling us to personalize our own step-bystep guide to wellness. These sections, in conjunction with a series of tests allowing us to assess the level of our codependent behavior, demonstrate that while it may not seem possible now, we have the power to take care of ourselves, no matter what we are experiencing.

Punctuated with Beattie's renowned candor and intuitive wisdom, The New Codependency is an owner's manual to learning to be who we are and gives us the tools necessary to reclaim our lives by renouncing unhealthy practices.
  

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Review: The New Codependency: Help and Guidance for Today's Generation

User Review  - Heather Hill - Goodreads

Some interesting and enlightening information. I read this for book research, but found a lot of relevance here for myself. My only issue with the book was I had to skip some sections that were quite ... Read full review

Review: The New Codependency: Help and Guidance for Today's Generation

User Review  - Peggy Jantz - Goodreads

Melody's books on codependency have helped me deal personally with my sisters addiction problems. It reinforces what I have to work on. It almost feels at times she is speaking directly to me.. Highly recommend Read full review

Contents

SECTION
1
SECTION
19
Caretaking
28
Chemically Dependent and Codependent
59
A New Legacy from Our Family of Origin
109
Giving and Receiving
115
SelfLove Is Contagious
119
Manipulation
124
Surrendering Our Way into Grace
168
SECTION THREE Making a Conscious Connection with Yourself
177
Emotional Health Quiz
178
Anger Quiz
185
Fear Quiz
192
Drama and Misery Addiction Quiz
198
Guilt Quiz
206
Grief and Loss Quiz
215

Lets Play
129
Nurturing
132
Obsession
136
The Secrets to Power
140
Codependency Progression
145
Healing What Hurts
148
The Freedom to Be Who We Are
151
Nonresistance
154
Sexual Intimacy and Codependency
157
Its Only a Feeling 1 Opening Pandoras Box
223
Dealing with Feelings
236
Fear
240
Company Doesnt Love Misery
242
Guilt
244
The Way to the Heart
250
SECTION FIVE
257
How to Find Help for Almost Everything
268
Copyright

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About the author (2008)

Melody Beattie, one of the seminal figures in the recovery movement, is the author of the international bestseller Codependent No More, which has sold over eight million copies and been translated into more than a dozen languages. An expert on codependency, Beattie has written fifteen books, including include Beyond Codependency, The Language of Letting Go, and The Grief Club, and lectures worldwide. She lives in Southern California. For more information visit her website at www.melodybeattie.com.

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