The Myth of Self-esteem: How Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy Can Change Your Life Forever

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Prometheus Books, 2005 - Psychology - 344 pages
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What exactly is self-esteem? Most people, as well as many psychologists and educators, believe we need it, that it's good for our emotional well-being, and that it makes us more successful. World-renowned psychologist Albert Ellis says NO, it's all a myth.

According to Ellis, self-esteem is probably the greatest emotional disturbance known to humans. Self-esteem results in each of us praising ourselves when what we do is approved by others. But we also damn ourselves when we don't do well enough and others disapprove of us. What we need more than self-esteem, Ellis maintains, is self-acceptance!

In The Myth of Self-Esteem, Ellis provides a lively and insightful explanation of self-esteem and self-acceptance, examining the thinking of great religious teachers, philosophers, and psychologists, including Lao Tsu, Jesus, Spinoza, Nietzsche, Kierkegaard, Buber, Heidegger, Sartre, Tillich, D.T. Suzuki, the Dalai Lama, Carl Rogers, and Nathaniel Branden, among others. He then provides exercises for training oneself to change self-defeating habits to the healthy, positive approach of self-acceptance. These include specific thinking techniques as well as emotive and behavioral exercises.

He concludes by stressing that unconditional self-acceptance is the basis for establishing healthy relationships with others, along with unconditional other-acceptance and a total philosophy of life anchored in unconditional life-acceptance.

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Review: The Myth of Self-esteem: How Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy Can Change Your Life Forever

User Review  - Rodney Daut - Goodreads

This book teaches an entirely new philosophy for how to think of ourselves. It shows that self-esteem can cause more problems than it solves. And suggests a readical new way to think of ourselves that can free us from anxiety, anger and fear. This book gets my highest recommendation Read full review

Review: The Myth of Self-esteem: How Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy Can Change Your Life Forever

User Review  - Rodney Daut - Goodreads

This book teaches an entirely new philosophy for how to think of ourselves. It shows that self-esteem can cause more problems than it solves. And suggests a readical new way to think of ourselves that can free us from anxiety, anger and fear. This book gets my highest recommendation Read full review

Contents

Acknowledgments
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Positive Regard
25
The Advantages and Disadvantages of SelfEsteem or Conditional SelfAcceptance
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Albert Ellis is the president emeritus of The Albert Ellis Institute for Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy.

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