And Words Can Hurt Forever: How to Protect Adolescents from Bullying, Harassment, and Emotional Violence

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Simon and Schuster, Sep 2, 2003 - Education - 256 pages
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As a society, we are only just beginning to understand the degree of damage that bullying inflicts on individual teenagers and on their relationships later in life. In this groundbreaking work, James Garbarino and Ellen deLara uncover the staggering extent of emotional cruelty and its ramifications and counter the nursery rhyme that words don't hurt.

In this groundbreaking work, James Garbarino, the bestselling author of Lost Boys, and Ellen deLara uncover the staggering extent and consequences of schoolyard bullying and classroom hostility, flat-out contradicting the nursery rhyme that "words can never hurt you." The authors then present evidence that teenagers—hundreds of whom they interviewed—have the solution to school violence, if only adults would listen.

Bullying has long been regarded as a way of life. Ever since Columbine, however, student reactions to harassment and intimidation are, finally, driving parents to consider this phenomenon seriously. And Words Can Hurt Forever teaches parents to accept reality (bullying occurs daily), challenge old beliefs ("Kids will be kids" or "If I lived through it, so can they"), and ally with other parents to take on the school system. Revelatory and ultimately uplifting, And Words Can Hurt Forever doesn't just highlight the problem, but offers steps that can be taken—must be taken—to solve it.
  

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Read this for a class I am taking. I was expecting a bit more from it. Read full review

Review: And Words Can Hurt Forever: How to Protect Adolescents from Bullying, Harassment, and Emotional Violence

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Reading this again, my own copy this time and marking it up to note the significant comments which are many. Read full review

Contents

Emotional Violence Can Kill
1
The Secret School Life of Adolescents
16
Taking On the Myths of Adolescents at School
33
Issues of Power and Groups
53
The Many Faces of Bullying
67
Sexual Harassment and Stalking
89
The System Needs Repairs
112
Chapter8 Taking It
127
Everyones Affected
167
Principals and Teachers Stepping Up to the Plate
182
Final Reflections on the Emotionally Safe School
201
Resources on Bullying and Violence Prevention
209
Suggested Readings
217
References
220
Index
231
Copyright

The Puzzle of Peer Predictability
149

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About the author (2003)

James Garbarino, Ph.D., is the author of Lost Boys and coauthor of Parents Under Siege. Formerly codirector of the Family Life Development Center and Professor of Human Development at Cornell University, he is now Professor of Social Work at Boston College. He lives in Boston, Massachusetts.

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