Boundaries: When to Say Yes, when to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

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Zondervan, 1992 - Religion - 320 pages
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Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances -- Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions -- Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others -- Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator -- Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask: - Can I set limits and still be a loving person? - What are legitimate boundaries? - What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? - How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? - Aren't boundaries selfish? - Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.

  

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"Biblical" is a bad adjective. I think my favorite example I've seen is that the Berenstein Bears are not following God's biblical commands, because they are not arising and devouring much flesh ... Read full review

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Contents

Acknowledgments
11
Part One What Are Boundaries?
13
A Day in a Boundaryless Life
15
What Does a Boundary Look Like?
29
Boundary Problems
51
How Boundaries Are Developed
63
Ten Laws of Boundaries
85
Common Boundary Myths
107
Boundaries and Your Children
175
Boundaries and Work
201
Boundaries and Your Self
215
Boundaries and God
235
Part Three Developing Healthy Boundaries
243
Resistance to Boundaries
245
How to Measure Success with Boundaries
275
A Day in a Life with Boundaries
293

Part
127
Boundaries and Your Family
129
Boundaries and Your Friends
143
Boundaries and Your Spouse
157
Notes
305
Index
307
Copyright

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About the author (1992)

Cofounder of Cloud/Townsend Communications, Henry Cloud is a popular speaker and licensed psychologist. Cloud graduated with a doctorate in clinical psychology from Rosemead Graduate School of Psychology and maintains a private practice in Newport Beach, California. Also a cohost of the nationally broadcast "Minirth Meier New Life Clinic," Cloud has written numerous books with his business partner John Townsend, including Safe People, Twelve Christian Beliefs That Can Drive You Crazy, The Mom Factor, and the Gold Medallion award-winning Boundaries. On his own, Cloud, who specializes in individual adult psychotherapy, has written the books Changes That Heal: How to Understand Your Past to Ensure a Healthier Future and Secrets of Your Family Tree.

Dr. John Townsend is a psychologist, popular speaker, and cohost of the nationally broadcast New Life Live! radio program, and a cofounder of Cloud-Townsend clinic and Cloud-Townsend Resources. He has written or co-written 27 books, selling over six million copies, including the bestseller Boundaries.nbsp; He is also the author of Boundaries with Teens and Hiding from Love. He and his wife, Barbi, live in southern California. They have two grown sons.

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