The Complete Idiot's Guide to Dating

Judith Kuriansky

Penguin, 2004 - Family & Relationships - 370 pages

• An updated and revised edition of this best-selling guide to dating in the 21st century!
• A new look at dating in the age of reality TV shows such as The Bacheloretteand Joe Millionaire.
• Two new chapters - Diversity in Dating and Money Matters - the subjects Dr. Judy is asked about the most on her radio show.
• Additional tips on using the Internet to meet new people - a major focus in dating today.

Contents

• A New View on Where to Go and Whos the One: 1
• Dating Today in the New Century and Beyond: 3
• My Two Basic Rules of Dating: 4
• Love Online: 5
• The Threat of Terrorism and Realities of War: 6
• Show Me the Money: 7
• A Rise in Spirituality: 8
• Other Eastern Concepts Applied to Dating: 9
• Energetics: 10
• Special Issues Depending on Your Background: 12
• Dating for All Ages: 13
• From Me to You: 14
• Unraveling the Mystery of Attraction: 15
• Understanding Attraction: 16
• Making Your Love Deal: 17
• Identifying Your Type by Your Love Criteria: 18
• Romantic Resume: 19
• Blind Date: 20
• Love Scripts: 22
• Conditions That Enhance Attraction: 23
• Opposites Attract: 24
• Naughty or Nice: 26
• The Good Friend Test: 28
• Playing the Field or Playing with Fire?: 29
• Expanding Your Options Diversity Dating: 31
• DecemberMay and MayDecember: 32
• The Cultural Divide: 33
• Les Francis: 34
• Latin Countries: 35
• Orthodox Judaism: 36
• China: 37
• India: 38
• The Land Down Under: 39
• Making It Work No Matter What: 40
• Shared Storytelling: 41
• Get Going Good Ideas on Where to Meet People: 43
• Just Go About Your Life: 44
• Do Your Homework: 46
• Classic Good Places to Meet People: 47
• Getting Back to Your Roots: 48
• Food That Feeds Good Company: 49
• Cybercafes: 50
• Conventions: 51
• SelfImprovement Workshops Retreats and Expos: 52
• Sporting Events: 53
• Comedy Clubs: 54
• The Party Scene: 55
• Vacations: 56
• Unexpected Places: 57
• Hotels: 58
• Courts: 59
• Services to Help You Search and Make a Match: 61
• Essentials to Know: 62
• Oldies but Goodies: 63
• Answering Ads: 64
• Video Dating: 65
• Fix Me Up: 66
• The Latest Crazes: 68
• Rotate at Dinner: 69
• Business Lends a Hand: 70
• Ineedadatecom: 71
• Date Me: 72
• EMail: 73
• Can You Find Love on the Web?: 74
• Downsides to Cyberdating: 76
• Changing Men in Positive Ways: 77
• Evaluate the Service: 79
• Write Your Sample Profile Essay: 81
• Turning Virtual Love into RealLife Love: 82
• Preparing Yourself So Youand OthersLove You: 83
• Putting the Best You Forward: 85
• Give Yourself Permission to Like Yourself: 86
• You in Your World: 87
• Interpreting Your Descriptions: 88
• Morning WakeUp Call: 89
• SelfTalk: 91
• Express Yourself: 92
• Be Thankful for What You Have: 93
• Developing Body Confidence: 94
• Posture: 95
• Making Dreams Come True: 96
• Take Yourself Out on a Date: 97
• Dont Put Up with Crap: 98
• False SelfEsteem Boosters: 99
• The Loser Magnet: 100
• From Shy to Social Butterfly: 101
• Why Am I So Shy?: 102
• Overcoming Shyness: 103
• Lets Talk: 105
• Social Phobia: 106
• Making the Approach Work: 109
• Breaking the Ice Openers to Get the Gab Going: 111
• You Know What to Say: 113
• Bold or Subtle?: 114
• My Favorite PickUp Line Story: 115
• Sample Openers: 116
• Charming Romantic Openers: 117
• The Power of a Smile: 118
• Using Your Voice: 119
• Making a Good First Impression: 120
• Putting It All Together: 121
• Come Here Often? The Art of Flirting: 123
• The Six Rules of Flirting: 124
• The Flirting Hall of Shame: 125
• Deliver the Compliment: 126
• The Flirting Flamenco: 127
• Eye Contact: 128
• Body Positioning: 129
• Nonverbal Ways to Show Youre Interested: 130
• Overcoming Flirters Block: 131
• Scoring the Date: 133
• Tips on Asking for the Date: 135
• Who Makes the First Move?: 136
• When and How?: 137
• Closing the Deal: 138
• How Persistent Should You Be?: 139
• Keeping Your Emotions in Check: 140
• When You Get No Response: 141
• The First Date How to Make Sure Its Not the Last: 143
• Psyching Yourself Up: 144
• Planning the First Date: 145
• Know Where Youre Going and How Youre Getting There: 146
• What to Bring: 147
• Pitfalls of Conversation: 149
• The I Dont Know Block: 150
• Getting to Know You: 151
• What Works and What Doesnt for Men and Women: 152
• To Kiss or Not to Kiss: 153
• How to Tell if He or She Is Interested: 154
• Ending the Date: 155
• After the Date: 156
• The Second Date and Beyond: 157
• Asking for the Date: 158
• Bearing Gifts: 161
• Getting the GoAhead or Putting on the Brakes: 162
• Getting Double Messages: 164
• Is This Going Anywhere?: 165
• Making Subsequent Dates: 166
• Men Women and Dating: 167
• After the Night Is Over: 168
• The Stages of Hooking Up: 169
• Money Matters: 171
• Your Attitudes Toward Money: 172
• Monitoring Your Money Mind: 173
• The Indecent Proposal Test: 174
• Your Money Style: 175
• Having The Talk About Money: 176
• Who Pays?: 178
• Money Needs: 180
• For Love or Money: 181
• The Old Sugar Daddy and the New Sugar Mommy: 183
• A Dirty Dozen Tips on How to Marry a Millionaire: 184
• Is This It or Do I Keep Looking?: 187
• Are You on the Same Wavelength?: 189
• The Four Basic Personality Types: 193
• Coming to Your Senses: 195
• The Noahs Ark Test: 196
• Whats Your Sign?: 198
• Can We Talk?: 201
• Talkers Versus Silent TypesWhich Is Better?: 203
• Is Your Date a Good Communicator?: 205
• Mind Reading: 207
• How Much Should You Share?: 208
• Handling Touchy Situations: 209
• Men and Women Not Such Different Planets: 213
• Communication Styles: 215
• Assertiveness and Power: 216
• ACEing It: 217
• On Commitment: 218
• Debunking the Sex Stereotypes: 219
• The Gender War and the Movement Toward Peace: 222
• Reaching Detente in the Gender War: 223
• RoleReversal Exercises: 224
• Dating Disasters and Dilemmas: 227
• Unmet Expectations: 228
• The Dating Daisy Chain: 229
• Going for the Unavailable and Unattainable: 230
• Living with Ghosts of the Past: 231
• When Nothing Works Out: 232
• Feeling Used Abused and Foolish: 233
• Skeletons in the Closet: 234
• Secrets You Should Not Tell: 235
• Changing Them or Changing Yourself: 236
• LongDistance Love: 237
• How Do You Know if Youre in an Abusive Relationship?: 238
• Date Rape: 239
• Why People Stay in Abusive Relationships: 240
• Whats Up with This Person?: 243
• Narcissistic Types: 244
• OverEmotional Types: 245
• PassiveAggressive Types: 246
• Obsessive Types: 248
• Insecure or Paranoid Types: 249
• Depression: 250
• MoodSwing Types: 251
• Attention Deficit Disorder ADD: 252
• Deciding Whether to Stick It Out: 253
• Dating TimeOut Taking a Needed Break: 255
• Working Out the Need for TimeOut: 257
• Getting Over Being Rejected: 258
• Facing the Great Escape: 259
• Achieving Balance in Your Life: 260
• Using Your TimeOut Constructively: 261
• Start the Fires Burning: 263
• What Is This Thing Called Love?: 265
• Tests of Love: 267
• Love at First Sight: 268
• Stages of Love: 269
• Too Young for Love?: 270
• Jumping the Gun: 272
• Starved for Affection: 273
• The Changing Face of Love: 274
• Cold Feet and How to Warm Them Up: 275
• You Know Its Serious When: 276
• Rules of Commitment: 277
• Women with Cold Feet: 278
• Tips for Recognizing Cold feet in Men and Women: 279
• Ive Got a Secret: 280
• Overcoming a Fear of Commitment: 281
• Moving Too Fast: 282
• Relationship Ruiners Fighting and Jealousy: 283
• Top 10 Topics Couples Fight About: 284
• Why You Fight: 285
• Getting Over Peeves: 286
• How to Stop Fights: 287
• Jealousy Barometer: 288
• Slaying the GreenEyed Monster: 289
• Developing Confidence: 290
• Are You Jealous of the One You Love?: 292
• Poisonous Possessiveness: 293
• When Love and Sex Become Bedfellows: 295
• The 10 Commandments: 296
• More Are Saying Yes and No: 297
• Using Sex to Get Love and Vice Versa: 298
• How Can You Tell if Someone Just Wants Sex?: 299
• No Strings Just Sex: 300
• Turning Friends into Lovers: 301
• Who Makes the First Move?: 302
• How Important Is Sex?: 303
• Different Sex Drives: 304
• Being Responsible About Pregnancy and STDs: 305
• Battles over Control: 306
• Spicing Up Your Sex Life: 307
• Throwing Your Hat Back in the Ring: 307
• Handling Rejection When to Hold or Fold: 309
• Reading the Warning Signs: 313
• Making the Best of It: 314
• Dos and Donts of Dumping: 315
• The Nine Phases: 316
• Eighteen Tips for Letting Go: 318
• Revenge: 321
• Not Fully Cutting the Cord: 322
• Repairing the Hurt: 323
• Cant We Patch This Thing Up?: 324
• Getting Back in the Saddle: 327
• Saying GoodBye to the Old and Hello to the New: 328
• SingleParent Dating: 329
• When a New Lover Meets Your Child: 331
• What Others Say: 332
• Getting Out and About: 333
• Seniors and Sex: 334
• When a Spouse Has Died: 335
• A Final Word: 337
• Resources: 339
• Dating Quiz: 347
• Index: 351

Bibliographic information

• Title: The Complete Idiot's Guide to Dating; The Complete Idiot's Guide Series
• Author: Judith Kuriansky
• Edition: illustrated, revised
• Publisher: Penguin, 2004
• ISBN: 1592571530, 9781592571536
• Length: 370 pages
• Subjects: Family & Relationships / Dating; Family & Relationships / Love & Romance; Family & Relationships / Marriage & Long-Term Relationships; Social Science / Sociology / Marriage & Family