Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married (Google eBook)

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Moody Publishers, Sep 1, 2010 - Family & Relationships - 176 pages
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Gary Chapman writes, "Most people spend far more time in preparation for their vocation than they do in preparation for marriage." No wonder the divorce rate hovers around fifty percent. Bestselling author and marriage counselor Gary Chapman hopes to change that with his newest book. Gary, with more than 35 years of experience counseling couples, believes that divorce is the lack of preparation for marriage and the failure to learn the skills of working together as intimate teammates.

So he put together this practical little book, packed with wisdom and tips that will help many develop the loving, supportive and mutually beneficial marriage men and women long for. It's the type of information Gary himself wished he had before he got married. The material lends itself to heart-felt discussions by dating or engaged couples. To jump-start the exchanges, each short chapter includes insightful "Talking it Over" questions and suggestions. And, the book includes information on interactive websites as well as books that will enhance the couples experience.

Dr. Chapman even includes a thought-provoking appendix. By understanding and balancing the five key aspects of life, dating couples can experience a healthy relationship. A revealing learning exercise is included at the end.


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Great relationship advice overall! - Goodreads
Gary Chapman is an awesome writer and counselor. -
Short easy to read chapters. - Goodreads
Good advice, nothing earth-shattering. - Goodreads
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Review: Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married

User Review  - Katie - Goodreads

This book was great! It brought up several practical issues I hadn't thought about, and Donny and I were able to discuss them now instead of having potential conflict later. There's also great section ... Read full review

Review: Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married

User Review  - Johanna - Goodreads

Great read for serious couples pursuing marriage or engaged couples. Love the questions at the end. For couples who have been together for a really long time, some of these things will not be relevant ... Read full review


Chapter One That being in love is not an adequate foundation for building a successful marriage
Chapter Two That romantic love has two stages
Chapter Three That the saying Like mother like daughter and Like father like son is not a myth
Chapter Four How to solve disagreements without arguing
Chapter Five That apologizing is a sign of strength
Chapter Six That forgiveness is not a feeling
Chapter Seven That toilets are not selfcleaning
Chapter Nine That mutual sexual fulfillment is not automatic
Chapter Ten That I was marrying into a family
Chapter Eleven That spirituality is not to be equated with going to church
Chapter Twelve That personality profoundly influences behavior
Appendix Developing a Healthy Dating Relationship

Chapter Eight That we needed a plan for handling our money

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About the author (2010)

GARY CHAPMAN, PhD, is the author of the #1 New York Times bestselling The 5 Love Languages. With over 30 years of counseling experience, he has the uncanny ability to hold a mirror up to human behavior, showing readers not just where they go wrong, but also how to grow and move forward. Dr. Chapman holds BA and MA degrees in anthropology from Wheaton College and Wake Forest University, respectively, MRE and PhD degrees from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, and has completed postgraduate work at the University of North Carolina and Duke University. For more information visit his website at

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