The Relationship Cure: A Five-step Guide for Building Better Connections with Family, Friends, and Lovers

Front Cover
Crown Publishers, 2001 - Psychology - 319 pages
42 Reviews
This follow-up to the blockbuster Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work provides a powerful practical program for analyzing all of the important relationships in your life and making the repairs that will lead to stronger emotional bonds and a happier, healthier life. Gottman bases his program on his twenty years of groundbreaking research into the key elements that make relationships either satisfying and healthy or unfulfilling and negative. He emphasizes the importance of what he calls emotional connection and introduces the powerful new concept of the emotional "bid", which Gottman describes as the fundamental unit of emotional connection. The book describes how we can make or break relationships by the way we bid for emotional connection and respond to other people's bids for the same. Gottman's program provides empowering tools for evaluating how effectively or not you bid for emotional connection, and also for evaluating how the others in your life bid for connection. He lays out the simple, practical steps for mastering the bidding process and connecting much more effectively, with your spouse, children, siblings, friends,

From inside the book

What people are saying - Write a review

User ratings

5 stars
13
4 stars
15
3 stars
11
2 stars
2
1 star
1

Good practical advice. - Goodreads
Very well researched and very insightful. - Goodreads
Solid common-grace (secular) insight. - Goodreads
Some good advice to follow here. - Goodreads
Such wonderful research, such terrible titles. - Goodreads
Provides a number of great insights into relationships. - Goodreads

Review: The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships

User Review  - Ron - Goodreads

An exceptional and highly detailed look at our emotional lapses from the present that interfere with good communication and close bonds. The author has studied married couples for decades and ... Read full review

Review: The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships

User Review  - Jie - Goodreads

Insightful and analytical. Using cases from his "Love Lab" where Gottman and associates study the behaviors of couples, Gottman writes a self-help book that actually explains how the way we act ("bids ... Read full review

Contents

Six Bid Busters and How to Avoid Them
65
Sharpen Your Emotional Communication Skills
168
Apply What Youve Learned
229
Copyright

1 other sections not shown

Common terms and phrases

A N D SD 9 A N D SD SCORlNG ability to bid affect alternative that best Alzheimer's disease anger angry another's bids bar mitzvahs Batia better emotional connections bid and respond bids for connection bids for emotional body language boogie boards Brain's Emotional Command can't child circle the alternative comfort level COMFORT LEVEL SCORE Commander-in-Chief Commander-in-Chief system Communication Game conflict connect emotionally couples coworkers Darth Vader depressed didn't does your child don't dreams Emotion Log emotion-coaching emotion-disapproving emotional command systems emotional connection emotional heritage emotional intelligence emotional philosophy emotionally empathy enduring vulnerabilities Energy Czar Erving Goffman example Exchange ends Explorer expresses this feeling facial expressions Failed connection family's philosophy feel folk music Forest Side friends friendship George Carlin Hanukkah he's husband husbands and wives I've ical it's Jaak Panksepp Jester Kauai kayaking kids l am l don't l enjoy laissez-faire lf you scored look lt's marriage married couples marshmallow McDonald's meaning Medium Medium metaphors might Moriah mosh pit Mount Everest Nest-Builder Nest-Builder system often okay parents Passover Seder past injuries interfere Pearl Jam people's expressions person philosophy philosophy of emotion point SD Post-traumatic stress disorder problems psychologist questions rela Relationship marketing relationships respond respond to bids rience rituals rock climbing SA A N D SD sadness salsa dancing SCORE lf SD SCORlNG SA Sensualist Sentry share she's Shortstop sibling soccer spouse Star Wars Successful connection synagogue talk tell That's there's they're things tional tionship together travel trailer turn away turn toward understand University of Oregon University of Washington vated we're What's Yeah you'd you'll you're you've

About the author (2001)

John M. Gottman, Ph.D., is the cofounder and co-director of the Gottman Institute, along with his wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman. He is also the James W. Mifflin Professor of Psychology at the University of Washington in Seattle and the recipient of numerous national and international awards for his groundbreaking relationship research. His work has been featured on many national television shows, including The Oprah Winfrey Show, 20/20, Dateline, and Good Morning America. His previous books include the national bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (2000) and Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child (1997).

John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman founded the Gottman Institute to provide educational materials, therapist and couples workshops, and therapy to couples and

Bibliographic information