The New Book of Wedding Etiquette: How to Combine the Best Traditions with Today's Flair (Google eBook)

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Random House LLC, Apr 7, 2010 - Reference - 312 pages
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Modern-Day Weddings with Grace and Style
Wedding ceremonies are still about love and romance, a special moment that creates a beautiful and everlasting union. But not everything related to weddings stays the same over the years. Etiquette evolves, rules change. And who can keep up with all of today's complicated family issues? With the help of this book, you can stay on top of it all and learn how to combine timeless wedding traditions with the latest trends and social styles. Inside, you'll discover the secrets of having a beautiful, contemporary event full of fabulous elegance while at the same time satisfying the varied needs of friends and family. Included are etiquette tips and hints for every step of the planning process and answers to today's trickiest wedding situations, including:
·How to handle unique family situations
·Who pays for each aspect of the wedding
·When the bride has a best man and the groom has a maid of honor
·And much, much more!
You'll also find answers to frequently asked questions, do's & don'ts, and personal reflections, plus ideas for traditional and nontraditional weddings. This modern-day etiquette companion is the perfect wedding-planning partner. Now, you can relax and enjoy preparing for your special day!
"An outstanding resource for anyone planning a wedding! Shaw's advice is concise, on target, in good taste, and always full of dry humor."
Carolyn Shepard-Baehre, AIFD, president, Carolyn Shepard Design Group


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Contents

THE GUEST LIST
COED SHOWERS
GIFTS
Going Broke Over Wedding Showers
SHOWERS AND SECOND WEDDINGS
Dos Donts
WITH THIS RING
ESSENTIAL QUESTIONS TO ASK EARLY ON

OTHER ENGAGEMENT PRESENTS
INTRODUCING THE FAMILIES
WHEN PARENTS DISAPPROVE
THE PREGNANT BRIDE
TELLING THE EXSPOUSE
TELLING THE CHILDREN
WHEN A PARENT IS DECEASED
WHEN BOTH OF THE BRIDES PARENTS ARE DECEASED
WHEN THE BRIDE IS A WIDOW
WHEN THE BRIDE IS DIVORCED
WHEN THE GROOMS PARENTS ARE DIVORCED
WHEN THE COUPLE ANNOUNCES THEIR OWN ENGAGEMENT
RETURNING GIFTS
Who Pays for What in the Event of aBroken Engagement?
BANK ON IT
Divorced Parents and Money
ALTERNATIVE SOURCES
How to Save When the Bride and Groom Pay
Dos Donts
SETTING THE STAGE
THE DAY OF THE WEEK
THE CEREMONY SITE
THE RECEPTION SITE
One Wedding One Reception One Party
VERY FORMAL
FORMAL
PROPER DRESS FOR A VERY FORMAL DAYTIME WEDDING
PROPER DRESS FOR A VERY FORMAL EVENING WEDDING
PROPER DRESS FOR A FORMAL DAYTIME WEDDING
PROPER DRESS FOR A FORMAL EVENING WEDDING
SEMIFORMAL
Moms Outfits
Dos Donts
ALWAYS A BRIDESMAID
Obligation or Interrogation?
THE OUT CLAUSE
MATCHING ATTENDANTS
LONGLOST FRIENDS AND EXFRIENDS
ATTENDANTS AND PERSONAL APPEARANCE
BRIDESMAIDS
THE BEST MAN GROOMSMEN AND USHERS
Bridesmaids Hairdos and Tattoos
THE BRIDE ANDOR GROOMS CHILDREN IN THE WEDDING PARTY
MAIDMATRON OF HONOR
BEST MAN
ATTENDANTS
Dos Donts
THE HONOUR OF YOUR PRESENCE
WHOM TO INVITE
Verbal Invitations
THE BACKUP GUEST LIST
SIGNIFICANT OTHERS
OFFICE CONDUCT
INCLUDING OR EXCLUDING CHILDREN
DESTINATION WEDDINGS
Inviting Gay and Lesbian Couples
FIT TO PRINT
VERY FORMAL
NOT SO FORMAL
WORDING
RESPONSES
PRINTED REPLY CARDS
TISSUES
ADMISSION CARDS
MAPS AND DIRECTIONS
TITLES
INVITATIONS TO BOTH THE WEDDING AND RECEPTION
INVITATIONS TO THE RECEPTION ONLY
DECEASED PARENTS
DIVORCED AND REMARRIED PARENTS
BRIDE AND GROOM ISSUING THEIR OWN INVITATIONS
SECOND MARRIAGES
WHEN THE GROOMS FAMILY HOSTS THE WEDDING
INVITATIONS TO A DOUBLE WEDDING
MILITARY TITLES
PROFESSIONAL TITLES
Wedding Announcements
Children Issuing Invitations
Dos Donts
THE CENTER OF ATTENTION
THANK YOU NOTES
RETURNING WEDDING GIFTS
The Gift Table
GIFTS AND THE CANCELED WEDDING
WHO THROWS A SHOWER?
WHEN TO THROW A SHOWER
THE PROCESSIONAL
ORDER OF SERVICE CHRISTIAN CEREMONY
ORDER OF SERVICE JEWISH CEREMONY
RECESSIONAL
CoEd Processionals
SEATING FOR EXFAMILY MEMBERS
The Seating of Mothers and Grandmothers
SUGGESTIONS FOR THE PRELUDE
SUGGESTIONS FOR DURING THE CEREMONY
Vow Renewal Ceremonies
SEATING FOR A DOUBLE WEDDING
Dos Donts
IMMEDIATELY FOLLOWING
THE PLATED OR SITDOWN DINNER
THE PLATED LUNCHEON
THE BUFFET MEAL
HEAVY HORS DOEUVRES BUFFETS
METHODS OF SERVICE
SETTING THE TABLE
FONDANT ICING
ROYAL ICING
GUM PASTE MARZIPAN AND SPUN SUGAR ICING
FULL BAR
BEER AND WINE BARS
THEME BARS
BYOB
ASSIGNED TABLES AND ASSIGNED SEATS
Can We Charge for Liquor?
FEUDING RELATIVES AND OTHER INEVITABILITIES
LATE RSVPS AND SEATING
BANDS AND RIDERS
MASTERS OF CEREMONIES
Dos Donts
ROSES ARE RED
CHOOSING INSEASON BLOOMS
The Meaning of Flowers
THE BRIDES BOUQUET
FLOWER GIRLS
FLOWERS FOR MOTHERS
FOR THE RECEPTION
CAKE FLOWERS
Dos Donts
HOLD THAT POSE
TRADITIONAL
COLOR VERSUS BLACK AND WHITE
THE PACKAGE DEAL
BRIDAL PORTRAITS
PRECEREMONY PHOTOGRAPHS
POSTCEREMONY PHOTOGRAPHS
Who Pays for Parents Albums?
CANDID PHOTOGRAPHS
Dos Donts
A NIGHT ON THE TOWN
INCLUDING SPOUSES
WHO PAYS?
WHO IS INVITED?
GIFTS
TRANSPORTATION
FOR THE GENTLEMEN
FOR THE LADIES
Dos Donts
PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT
WHO SHOULD ATTEND THE CEREMONY REHEARSAL?
WHO SHOULD NOT ATTEND THE CEREMONY REHEARSAL?
WHAT TIME TO REHEARSE?
MEETING WITH A WEDDING DIRECTOR
THE OFFICIANT
LOGISTICS
BRIDES AND GROOMS AND THE REHEARSAL
WHO HOSTS?
WHO PAYS?
WHO SHOULD ATTEND?
PHOTOGRAPHY
TOASTS
OUTOFTOWN GUESTS AND ENTERTAINMENT
Rehearsal Dinner Complications
Dos Donts
HERE COMES THE BRIDE
Should There Be a Receiving Line?
Dos Donts
THE LIFE OF THE PARTY
How Much Wedding Cake?
Presenting the Bouquet to Grandmother
When to Leave the Reception
Dos Donts
Copyright

Common terms and phrases

About the author (2010)

Kim Shaw is a wedding expert and the president of Moonlight & Magnolia, which offers wedding and special-event planning services. She is also a featured columnist for WeddingeXpress.com. She lives with her husband in Charlotte, North Carolina.


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