Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After

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Macmillan, Oct 30, 2007 - Family & Relationships - 324 pages
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"Singled Out debunks myths and stereotypes about single people and lays the groundwork for social, political, and economic change."
-- Thomas F. Coleman, Executive Director, Unmarried America Drawing from decades of scientific research and stacks of stories from the front lines of singlehood, Bella DePaulo debunks the myths of singledom---and shows that just about everything you’ve heard about the benefits of getting married and the perils of staying single are grossly exaggerated or just plain wrong. Although singles are singled out for unfair treatment by the workplace, the marketplace, and the federal tax structure, they are not simply victims of this singlism--single people really are living happily ever after. Singled Out Debunks Ten Myths of Singlehood, Including:
-Myth--The Dark Aura of Singlehood: You are miserable and lonely and your life is tragic.
-Myth--Attention, Single Women: Your work won’t love you back and your eggs will dry up. Also, you don’t get any and you’re promiscuous.
-Myth--Attention, Single Men: You are horny, slovenly, and irresponsible, and you are the scary criminals. Or you are sexy, fastidious, frivolous, and gay. “Elegant analysis, wonderfully detailed examples, and clear and witty prose…A must-read for all single adults, their friends and families, as well as social scientists and policy advocates.”
--E. Kay Trimberger, author of The New Single Woman
 
“The singles movement is coming to a bookstore near you.”
--Associated Press
 
“Fascinating  . .this book could hardly have come at a better time. As much as societal adulation of the couple discriminates against single people, Singled Out suggests that it can also undermine marriage.”
--The Christian Science Monitor
  

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Review: Singled Out: How Singles are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After

User Review  - Darkemeralds - Goodreads

DePaulo makes explicit a number of American prejudices and small, sometimes costly injustices against single adults that I wasn't quite conscious of. You will get them all in a nutshell in Chapter One ... Read full review

Review: Singled Out: How Singles are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After

User Review  - Gabrielle Trenbath - Goodreads

As someone who is happily single I seriously loved this book and I think everyone should read it, even if you're married. There was so much that she wrote about that identified with, such as society ... Read full review

Contents

Science and the Single Person
28
The Wonder of Couples
62
FOUR
71
The Dark Aura of Singlehood
94
X
107
SEVEN
134
EIGHT
150
ELEVEN
199
THIRTEEN
234
FOURTEEN
243
FIFTEEN
252
Notes
263
Bibliography
291
Acknowledgments
309
Index
315
Copyright

TWELVE
210

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About the author (2007)

BELLA DEPAULO, Ph.D., is a social psychologist who did her graduate work at Harvard. She is currently a visiting professor at the University of California at Santa Barbara. DePaulo is single and living happily ever after in Summerland, California.
Visit her website at www.belladepaulo.com

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