The Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It

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John Wiley & Sons, Jul 28, 2008 - Family & Relationships - 240 pages
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The New York Times bestselling look at the real reasons for male marital infidelity and what might prevent it

Few events cause as much turmoil in a marriage as infidelity. It can shatter trust and breed insecurity and resentment from which some relationships never recover. People who think it won't happen to them are hit that much harder when it does. Why are men unfaithful? Can infidelity be prevented? What do men say they're getting from their mistresses that they're missing at home? Do a man's friends have anything to do with his willingness to cheat?

In this New York Times bestselling book, experienced family counselor M. Gary Neuman shares the revealing and surprising findings of a cutting-edge research study in which he interviewed men across the country who have physically cheated on their wives. Neuman shares many shocking discoveries, including the prominent role of emotional dissatisfaction in motivating husbands who stray and how small a role sexual dissatisfaction plays.

  • Based on a groundbreaking study of both cheating men and men who have remained faithful
  • Reveals surprising findings on the contribution of sexual and emotional dissatisfaction to male infidelity
  • Written by experienced family counselor M. Gary Neuman, coauthor of In Good Times and Bad and author of Emotional Infidelity
  • Neuman and The Truth about Cheating were featured twice on The Oprah Winfrey Show

Drawing on dramatic case stories of the author's own work with clients, The Truth about Cheating includes proactive strategies and action steps for married women to help them prevent infidelity and create a faithful and rewarding marriage.


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Review: The Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It

User Review  - Victoria Ontiveros - Goodreads

I do recommend this book to those who are newlyweds, especially those who care for their marriage to have a long happy years. In this book gives you reasons why mean cheat along what they think while ... Read full review

Review: The Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It

User Review  - Jostalady - Goodreads

After seeing the author nearly get mobbed by angry women on Oprah, my interest was piqued. I kept seeing it come through the library, in high demand, so I skimmed it. I was very upset by what I read ... Read full review


Fidelity Facts
Getting Answers to Vital Questions
The Research
How to Use This Book
Im Not Blaming the Victim
The Quick Action Program
The Number One Reason Men Cheat
Its All about the Emotions Not the Sex
Making Sex Work for You
Lock Your Bedroom Door
Feel Comfortable in Your Bedroom
Keep Your Bathroom Behavior Private
The Role of Childhood Abuse
Use Birth Control That Puts Your Mind at Ease
The Many Voices We House Within
Your Brain Can Hamper You

Appreciation Is Key
The Breadwinner Role
The Role Your Husbands Family and Friends Play in His Cheating
The Other Woman
Cheating Signals
Listen CloselyHe May Tell You about the Other Woman
Where Cheating Men Meet the Other Woman
How Long Did It Take to Get from Meeting to Cheating?
Why You Want to Know ASAP if Your Husband Is Cheating
But He Used to Be More Sensitive
If I Appreciate Him Hell Never Change
Why Do I Have to Appreciate Him to Get Him to Be Good to Me?
Find His Goodness
The Three Keys to Understanding Your Man
How to Show Him Support
How to Clue Him In
Finding the Time to Love Each Other
The Role of Guilt
The Ones Who Will Cheat No Matter What
Why Sex?
Making Sex Work for Both of You
Which Voice Are You Activating?
Cindys Story
The Voices You Can Change Right Now
Lisas Story
Lindas Story
When Your Sex Life Is Unfulfilling
One Fight Two Ways to Manage
Love Is in the Effort
Caring for Your Physical Self
What Advice Would You Give to Your Friend?
Peace Tranquillity Calm Nurturing
Are You Rejecting Presents?
The Date Night
Regular Touching
No Therapy at All
Making Marital Counseling Work
Do I Divorce or Do I Stay?
To the Husband
Does One Lie Lead to Another?
Your Role as the Wife Who Was Cheated On

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About the author (2008)

M. Gary Neuman is a licensed family counselor and rabbi, the coauthor of In Good Times and Bad, and the author of Emotional Infidelity and Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way. A frequent guest on Oprah, he has also appeared multiple times on Today, Good Morning America, The View, and National Public Radio. He and his work have been featured in People, Time, Parents, and other major publications. Neuman is the creator of Marriage Turnaround Intensive, an innovative all-day approach to couples therapy. He maintains a private practice in Miami Beach, where he lives with his wife and five children. Visit his Web site at

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