The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-defense

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Barnes & Noble Publishing, 1980 - Psychology - 310 pages
18 Reviews
Learn how to detect the subtle "put-downs," insults and other verbal blows that almost everyone uses--parents and children, husbands and wives. teachers and students, and friends and lovers. Most of us are under verbal attack every day and often don't even realize it. In this book you'll learn the skills you need to respond to all types of verbal attack. Specific strategies for your defense include: twelve rules of clear, effective interaction; recognition of five verbal modes--the Placator, Blamer, Distractor, Computer, and Leveler; tone of voice--make yours bolder and more assertive; alternative scripts--better approaches to common confrontation; body language--how it supports what you say; and in special chapters directed to both men and women, the author explains how women have long been the verbal victims of men and what both sexes can do to break this destructive pattern.--From publisher description.
  

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User Review  - Nancy Dyer - Goodreads

Clear and insightful reading for the communication toolbox in terms of personal relationships. Ready to read the Language Imperative next. Read full review

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User Review  - Peter N Roth - Goodreads

This book changed my LIFE! Rereading to freshen up in order to teach a course using Elgin's principles. Read full review

Contents

Section A Attacks
27
Attacks
65
7
86
8
107
9
128
Section G Attacks
149
11
170
12
192
13
212
14
235
15
247
Special Chapter
266
17
278
18
295
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SUZETTE HADEN ELGIN, Ph.D., is the founder of the Ozark Center for Language Studies. Her bestselling Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense books include Genderspeak and You Can't Say That to Me!, both from Wiley. She and her family live near Huntsville, Arkansas.

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