I'm OK--You're OK

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HarperCollins, Jul 6, 2004 - Self-Help - 320 pages
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Transactional Analysis delineates three observable ego-states (Parent, Adult, and Child) as the basis for the content and quality of interpersonal communication. "Happy childhood" notwithstanding, says Harris, most of us are living out the Not ok feelings of a defenseless child, dependent on ok others (parents) for stroking and caring. At some stage early in our lives we adopt a "position" about ourselves and others that determines how we feel about everything we do. And for a huge portion of the population, that position is "I'm Not OK -- You're OK." This negative "life position," shared by successful and unsuccessful people alike, contaminates our rational Adult capabilities, leaving us vulnerable to inappropriate emotional reactions of our Child and uncritically learned behavior programmed into our Parent. By exploring the structure of our personalities and understanding old decisions, Harris believes we can find the freedom to change our lives.

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User Review  - William Perrin - Goodreads

This book is for the politically disaffected. It seems a major shame to me that any author would mix his own liberal political views into any writing, but that's exactly what has happened with this ... Read full review

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User Review  - Yana Shevkirova - Goodreads

This is a brilliant book, although I wouldn't call it self-help, since for the mainstream public, I reckon it would appear to be too difficult to read and comprehend. One must have a basis of ... Read full review

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The late Thomas Harris was a Navy psychiatrist and a professor at the University of Arkansas. He practiced psychiatry in Sacramento, California and directed the Transactional Analysis Association.

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