I'm OK--You're OK

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HarperCollins, Jul 6, 2004 - Body, Mind & Spirit - 320 pages
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Transactional Analysis delineates three observable ego-states (Parent, Adult, and Child) as the basis for the content and quality of interpersonal communication. "Happy childhood" notwithstanding, says Harris, most of us are living out the Not ok feelings of a defenseless child, dependent on ok others (parents) for stroking and caring. At some stage early in our lives we adopt a "position" about ourselves and others that determines how we feel about everything we do. And for a huge portion of the population, that position is "I'm Not OK -- You're OK." This negative "life position," shared by successful and unsuccessful people alike, contaminates our rational Adult capabilities, leaving us vulnerable to inappropriate emotional reactions of our Child and uncritically learned behavior programmed into our Parent. By exploring the structure of our personalities and understanding old decisions, Harris believes we can find the freedom to change our lives.

  

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Contents

Freud Penfield and Berne
1
Parent Adult and Child
18
structural Diagram of the Personality
21
The Child
27
Gradual Emergence of the Adult Beginning at Ten Months
32
The Adult Gets Data from Three Sources
33
The Updating Function of the Adult Through Reality Testing
35
The Four Life Positions
39
TherapistPatient
88
ManAttendant
90
Adolescent ClrlFriend
91
Little BoyLittle Girl
92
veronaBabbitt
93
HusbandWife
94
HusbandWife
95
HOW we Differ
102

Births of the individual from Conception to Age Five
43
we Can Change
57
Prejudice
61
Analyzing the Transaction
69
ParentParent Transaction
72
AdultAdult Transaction
75
ChildChild Transaction
76
ChildParent Transaction
81
ParentChild Transaction
82
ChildAdult Transaction
83
AdultParent Transaction
84
Crossed Transaction
85
Crossed Transaction
86
PatientNurse
87
Contamination
104
ParentContaminated Adult with a BlockedOut Child
106
ChildContaminated Adult with a BlockedOut Parent
107
The BlockedOut or Decommissioned Adult
110
How we use Time 11 s 8 PAC and Marriage
128
PAC and Children
146
PAC and Adolescents
179
When is Treatment Necessary?
202
PAc and Moral values
220
Social implications of PAc
250
index
275
SonFather 88
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The late Thomas Harris was a Navy psychiatrist and a professor at the University of Arkansas. He practiced psychiatry in Sacramento, California and directed the Transactional Analysis Association.

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