Men's Work: How to Stop the Violence That Tears Our Lives Apart

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Random House Publishing Group, 1995 - Family & Relationships - 320 pages
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In a world that thrives on aggression and physical force, male violence has become an all-too-frequent response to the frustrations and anxieties that fill men's lives. As a result, the lives of women and children have suffered dramatically, as society has come to tolerate their victimization.

Using the unique program at the Oakland Men's Project in California as a basis, Paul Kivel, one of its founding members, shares an extraordinary approach to stopping male violence. The key is understanding and evading the cultural forces that box men in and often reward them for violent behavior. Through exercises, thought-provoking questions, and intense self-examination, Men's Work helps men learn new rules and new roles in personal relationships and in the world at large.

Men's Work gives back to men the power and responsibility they need to unlearn the lessons of control and aggression. Going beyond the mythology of the current men's movement, this revolutionary work identifies and develops the social and political framework on which to place men's individual efforts to recover their humanity.


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Review: Men's Work: How to Stop the Violence That Tears Our Lives Apart

User Review  - Jonathan - Goodreads

Should be required reading for all men, or at the very least all men who care about ending violence and oppression. Read full review

Review: Men's Work: How to Stop the Violence That Tears Our Lives Apart

User Review  - Tinea - Goodreads

Challenging book that pushes self-examination and taking that education and teaching it. "Men's work:" undoing male violence. Topics include male and female socialization; expressing emotions ... Read full review

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Paul Kivel is a trainer, activist, writer and a cofounder of the Oakland Men's Project. He has personally developed and conducted hundreds of workshops, training thousands of teens and adults on such topics as male/female relationships, alternatives to violence, racism, family violence and sexual assault, parenting, and diversity issues. He has worked with public schools, private schools, and universities, government agencies, youth recreation and leadership programs, juvenile corrections, jails and prisons, and with community based organizations. His essays have been published in books and magazines, and he has appeared on local and national television. Paul Kivel is the author of several books including Men's Work: How to Stop the Violence that Tears Our Lives Apart, and Uprooting Racism: How White People Can Work for Racial Justice, which received the Gustavus Myers award for Human Rights in 1996. He is also co-author of several widely used curricula including Making the Peace, Young Men's Works, Helping Teens Stop Violence, and Young Women's Lives. His most recent book is Boys Will Be Men: Raising Our Sons for Courage, Caring, and Community. Paul Kivel lives in Oakland, CA, with his partner and their daughter and two sons.

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