It Will Never Happen to Me: Growing Up with Addiction As Youngsters, Adolescents, Adults (Google eBook)

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Hazelden Publishing, Aug 21, 2013 - Family & Relationships - 216 pages
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First published 20 years ago, It Will Never Happen to Me is the definitive book/workbook for adult children of alcoholics.

With her reassuring and informative approach, Claudia Black expertly identifies common issues faced by children who grew up in alcoholic families-shame, neglect, unreasonable role expectations, and physical abuse. Using narratives and profiles, she describes survival techniques characteristic of children raised in alcoholic families, including the unspoken laws of don't talk, don't trust, and don't feel. First explaining how such learned responses cause difficulties in adulthood, Black carefully guides readers in identifying self-defeating, destructive behaviors and finding a healthier, happier way to live.

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  • a proven seller by a respected recovery author
  • contains easy-to-follow, useful exercises
  • can be used by individuals or in a therapeutic setting

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    User Review  - jimmymon -

    I have read this book many times and have recommended it to friends. It is a common sense practical approach to understanding the behaviors that complicate our lives. You dont have to be a child of an alcoholic to benefit from this. Its all about behaviors we exhibit. Read full review

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    User Review  - Margot Note - Goodreads

    "Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." Yes, but addictive families are all similar and abide by the same rules: don't talk, don't trust, don't feel. It is ... Read full review


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    Page 14 - Children growing up in alcoholic homes seldom learn the combinations of roles which mold healthy personalities. Instead, they become locked into roles based on their perception of what they need to do to "survive" and to bring some stability to their lives.
    Page 18 - ... makes life easier for the parents by providing more time for the alcoholic to be preoccupied with drinking, and for the co-alcoholic to be preoccupied with the alcoholic. Whether or not responsible children are blatantly directed into this role, or more subtly fall into it, it is typically a role which brings them comfort. Playing the responsible role provides stability in the life of this oldest, or only, child and in the lives of other family members. These responsible children feel, and are,...

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