Protocols: Handbook for the Female Slave

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Nazca Plains, 2007 - Psychology - 175 pages
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More than just about protocols, this book looks into the BDSM Leather subculture as a whole. Protocols demonstrates devotion to a Master expressed through the slave's service. This guide enables a slave to express love for her Master through actions.
  

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Protocols: Handbook for the female slave by Robert J. Rubel. ISBN 978-1887895125
Reviewed by Chris Phillips
This book is specifically applicable to persons engaged in or considering an informed
, mutually consenting Master/slave (M/s) relationship. For those reading this that are outside of the Bondage Domination Sado-Masochism (BDSM) community the book provides a practioner’s view of how this dynamic is lived. For readers who are part of the BDSM community, this provides practical and personal guidelines in constructing and maintaining a vital M/s relationship.
Rubel defines his terms in the introduction and provides enough background to lay a solid groundwork. Rubel states, “This book is my personal Manual of Protocol for my slave.” (pg. 19) This manual provides the basis for the book. Rubel’s comments, introduction, appendices and reference materials add more body to form the remainder of the book.
Terms such as protocols, contracts, and rituals are clearly defined in the Introduction.
“Protocols represent a set of rules that govern specific actions or behavior in a particular situation. So, there is a ‘lockdown protocol’ in prison and a ‘test-taking protocol’ in the boarding school.” (pg 22)
Dealing with the Master-slave dynamic as a viable and vital relationship dynamic in modern society, Rubel proceeds in detail to describe his current relationship and how that can be applied to others’ lives. He defines the relationship between himself and his slave. He elucidates how these protocols are implemented and what the consequences are for failure but only as part of the commentary. Protocols and this book are specifically designed to guide a slave’s behavior in service to her Master.
One common thread is communication. Rubel sets the stage in chapter 3, but visible throughout.
“Issues of Communication
Courtesies and conversations often rely on tact. Tact is the talent for not saying that you were right in the first place. In our Family, we are not interested in affixing blame, we are interested in developing rich, harmonious relationships. The relevant aphorism is: ‘We’re not put on this earth to see through one another, but to see one another through.’” (pg 59)
His comments show insights into the details of working out his current relationship.
The chapters follow in logical order and increasing complexity. Rubel includes ample details to ensure that there is understanding although the sheer quantity of detail may leave some readers feeling overwhelmed. In the appendices, Rubel includes an example of a training contract, important safety information, forms and resources that are mentioned in the book, and references for further study. Rubel includes URLs for Leather conferences and events, which often provide more classes and presentations.
Rubel provides insight into the “power exchange,” “authority exchange,” and the Leather community as a subset within the overall BDSM community. Rubel contends there is sufficient distinction between Leather M/s and BDSM M/s for this book about Leather M/s High Protocol. The distinction Rubel espouses is a spiritual component not present to the same degree in other BDSM relationships. Quoting Master Skip Chasey and Master Steve Sampson, he states that the Top/bottom relationship is sexual, the Dominant/submissive is mental or about energy and the Master/slave is spiritual. The practical application illustrates that any portion can be adapted without demanding the strictness and structure of Rubel’s personal relationship.
Writing in the first person conversational tone, Rubel lends a personal touch to the book. This allows him to express his “commentaries” which explain the reasoning behind the protocol as well as important details of difficulties or unexpected twists that occurred in the writing of this book.
This book is an excellent source for those in or considering a Master-slave dynamic. It should be of interest to anyone that is part of the BDSM or Kink community. Family and friends of those in the community
 

Contents

Preface
13
Chapter 1
27
Chapter 2
47
Chapter 4
79
Chapter 6
131
Epilogue
151
About the Author
179
Copyright

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About the author (2007)

Dr. Rubel is an educational sociologist and researcher by training. Immediately after college he taught high school English in South-Central Los Angeles for three years. Returning to graduate school, he earned an EdM (Boston University) and PhD (University of Wisconsin) in the area of crime prevention in public schools. After serving a stint as a Visiting Fellow at the US Department of Justice, he formed a 501(c)(3) that specialized in crime prevention in public schools. He ran that firm for 17 years. During part of that period, he also was a founding member of the American Association of Woodturners, which he also ran for its first three years of existence. Robert has extensive management experience with non-profit associations, formerly holding national certification as a Certified Association Executive through the American Society of Association Executives. He is a heavily published author and has served as founder and managing editor of two national quarterlies, one for school police/security directors, and one for his beloved art-form of woodturning. He is an avid dancer, specializing in West Coast Swing and most country-western dance forms. In his mid-40s, Bob decided to change careers utterly and joined a stock brokerage and future brokerage firm in Washington, DC. Within six months, he was made a Principal of the futures brokerage side of the firm, and five months later was named CEO. He ran the company for the next four years. Upon the request of a close friend, Dr. Rubel returned to Austin to help start a new company. He worked as the corporate operations officer for five years, and then retired to pursue his passion as an erotic and fetish art photographer and writer. Robert (Bob) Rubel has been involved in the world of alternative sexuality for a number of years, throwing himself into the literature of the field as though it were an academic study. He frequently attends weekend conferences in this field, where he is a presenter (generally on topics related to Master/slave relations, Leather protocols, fire play, and sexuality studies). Robert's books include: Protocols: Handbook for the female slave, Second Edition. Las Vegas: Nazca Plains, 2007. Flames of Passion: Handbook of Erotic Fire Play, with David Walker. Las Vegas: Nazca Plains, 2006. Protocol Handbook for the Leather Slave: Theory and Practice. Las Vegas: Nazca Plains, 2006. Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice. Las Vegas: Nazca Plains, 2006. Master/slave Relations: Communication 401 - the advanced course. Las Vegas: Nazca Plains, 2008. Master/slave Relations, Solutions 402 - living in harmony. Las Vegas: Nazca Plains, 2008. Squirms, Screams, and Squirts: Handbook for Turning Great Sex into Extraordinary Sex. Las Vegas: Nazca Plains, 2009. Screams of Pleasure: Guide to Extraordinary Sex for those with Erectile Dysfunction. Las Vegas: Nazca Plains, 2009. Three books on erotic and fetish photography titled (with an eye towards perverse humor): o Parts: The Erotic Photographic Art of Robert J. Rubel, PhD. Las Vegas: Nazca Plains, 2006. o Wholes: The Erotic Photographic Art of Robert J. Rubel, PhD. Las Vegas: Nazca Plains, 2006. o Holes: The Erotic Photographic Art of Robert J. Rubel, PhD. Las Vegas: Nazca Plains, 2006. All Dr. Rubel's books are available through Amazon.com.

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