Flying Solo: Single Women in Midlife

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W. W. Norton & Company, Oct 1, 1995 - Social Science - 309 pages
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Unmarried at 40 - could there be anything worse? Our culture dictates that this woman is on her way down, a shrew or a lonely old maid, unattractive to men, a failure at catching or holding the golden ring of marriage. Yet, when psychologists Carol Anderson and Susan Stewart interviewed single women throughout the country - never married, divorced, with or without children - they discovered something different. Having confronted the old myths, these women are making choices, enjoying their own power, thriving on solitude and friendships. Their stories offer blueprints for living, as well as inspiration, for other women "flying solo." Most of these women did not intend to be on their own at midlife. They had accepted the "marriage and motherhood mandate" as their destiny - until Prince Charming failed to appear or the sacrifices of marriage turned out to be too great. While giving up the dream has not been easy, at midlife they have not only reached some resolution but are also busily creating purpose in their own lives. The authors share these women's stories and their practical advice on managing the mechanics of being single, transforming loneliness, redefining the importance of work, developing friendship and support networks, living with and without intimacy and sex with men, and choosing to have and raise children. In the process they define not just a new American lifestyle but a new American Dream.
  

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User Review  - Robin - Goodreads

Great book for the newly single woman in midlife. It was comforting to read about other women's situations. It was also easy to skip over irrelevant topics (like choosing to have a child on one's own). Highly recommended for any one interested in how women navigate midlife in singlehood. Read full review

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User Review  - Lynda - Goodreads

One of the best books I read on this topic. Read full review

Contents

Acknowledgments
13
TAKING OFF THE DILEMMA
29
Fish Got to Swim and Birds Got to Fly
40
The Marriage and Motherhood Mandate
50
The Mandate Goes Underground
64
Giving Up the Dream
81
No More Waiting for the Prince Tales of the Never Married
89
Broken Dreams Women Pushed into Lives on Their Own
103
A Good Ground Crew Intimacy Friendship
171
Men The Icing Not the Cake
189
Having Their Cake and Eating It Too Encapsulated
201
Defying the Mandate Living without Motherhood
217
Courageous Choices Single Mothers by Choice
229
Flying Not Quite Solo
243
FLYING SOLO
257
One at a Table for Two The Personal Challenges of Flying
272

Leaving Normal Women Who Have Chosen to Leave Their
115
Midlifes Gifts to Single Women
131
Accidental Careers Circuitous Paths Recovered Dreams
144
Turbulence and Tailwinds The Challenges of Flying Solo
156
Flying on the Wings of Change
287
Notes
295
Index
301
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About the author (1995)

Carol M. Anderson, Ph.D. , is a professor at University of Pittsburgh Medical School.

Susan Stewart, Ph.D. , has a therapy practice in Greensboro, North Carolina.

Sona Dimidjian, Ph.D, is a member of the faculty of the Department of Psychology and Neuroscience at the University of Colorado at Boulder in 2006.

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