She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

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HarperCollins, May 25, 2004 - Health & Fitness - 240 pages
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As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue.

Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay -- simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response.

Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and illustrated step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual.

She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how."

  

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Great overview of female anatomy as well. - Goodreads
A note for those stuck without an ending 41. - Goodreads
Good advice if you're afraid of vaginas. - Goodreads

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Written with humour and intellectual depth (well, more than one would expect from a book on this topic), She Comes First is aimed at men wishing to please women with their mouths. A good read for women too, with detailed explanations on the cycle of an orgasm. Read full review

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Contents

Twos Company 1 39
139
An Interlude
143
Escalating the Action Part 2
146
A Stitch in Time
151
Preorgasm Part 1 1 53
153
Preorgasm Part 2 1 57
157
Posterior Pizzazz 1 60
160
Preorgasm Part 3 1 63
163

Avoid Freud
36
Whats in a Name?
40
Female Sexual Anatomy Part 2
49
Avoid GSpotty Logic
51
Female Ejaculation
53
How Wet Is Wet?
56
Aristotle and the Poetics of Arousal
60
A Synopsis of Female Sexual Response
62
Scent and Sensibility
67
Weve Come a Long Way
71
But Proceed with Caution
74
Eat Right
77
The Cunnilinguist Manifesto
80
A Note on the Play Process
85
A Lexicon of Relevant Terms
87
Introducing Coreplay
98
Getting into Position
100
A Quick Refresher of the Top Ten Hot Spots in the Clitoral Network
108
the First Kiss
112
Establishing Rhythm
117
Developing Tension Part 1
123
Time Flies
127
Developing Tension Part 2
129
Escalating the Action Part 1 1 34
135
A Note for Those Stuck Without an Ending 1 66
166
Expanding Your Vocabulary
168
She Comes Again and Again 1 74
174
Seamless Transitions 1 77
177
Achieving Simultaneity 1 79
179
Dont Forget Your Epilogue
181
Putting it All Together
183
The Substance of Style
185
A Cheat Sheet
187
Beginner to Advanced
189
Conclusion
203
Appendices
207
Some Pointers on the Use of Restraint
211
Modifications of the Standard Position
212
The Protected Kiss Part 1
213
The Protected Kiss Part 2
215
The Scarlet Kiss
216
The Virgin Kiss His First Time
218
The Pregnant Kiss
221
Useful Toys
222
Routine Template blank
224
Bibliography
225
Acknowledgments
227
Copyright

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About the author (2004)

Ian Kerner , Ph.D., is a sex therapist —Dr. Drew Pinsky and New York Times bestselling author of numerous books. He contributes regularly to Today and lives in New York City with his wife and two young sons.

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