Lost & Found: The Adoption Experience

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University of Michigan Press, Jan 1, 2009 - Family & Relationships - 330 pages
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"[Looks] at adoption from all sides of the triangle: adoptee, birth mother, adoptive parents . . . A provocative, comprehensive inquiry."
---Kirkus Reviews

"Honest and moving."
---New York Times

"Important and powerful . . . [the author] is concerned not just with adoptees but with the experience of adoptive parents and birth parents."
---Psychology Today

"A moving and powerful plea for open discourse instead of secrecy among the participants in the adoption process."
---Public Welfare, American Public Welfare Association

The first edition of Betty Jean Lifton's Lost and Found advanced the adoption rights movement in this country in 1979, challenging many states' policies of maintaining closed birth records. For nearly three decades the book has topped recommended reading lists for those who seek to understand the effects of adoption---including adoptees, adoptive parents, birth parents, and their friends and families.

This expanded and updated edition, with new material on the controversies concerning adoption, artificial insemination, and newer reproductive technologies, continues to add to the discussion on this important topic. A new preface and afterword by the author have been added, as well as a greatly expanded resources section that in addition to relevant organizations now lists useful Web sites.

Betty Jean Lifton, Ph.D., is a writer, psychotherapist, and leading advocate for adoption reform. Her many books include Journey of the Adopted Self and The King of Children, a New York Times Notable Book. She regularly makes appearances as a lecturer on adoption and has an adoption counseling practice in Cambridge, Massachusetts, and New York City.

  

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Review: Lost & Found: The Adoption Experience

User Review  - Sam - Goodreads

I read this book after finding more recent "adoption experience" guides to be less applicable. I didn't find out I was adopted until my 30's and it is still an issue cloaked in strangeness with my ... Read full review

Review: Lost & Found: The Adoption Experience

User Review  - Jen Gibbs embree - Goodreads

A must read for any adoptee. I could have written this book myself, I found it so relative. Thanks to this book I am going thru a difficult but very necessary awakening concerning being adopted. Read full review

Contents

part onelost
1
On Being Adopted
3
Messages from the Underground
9
The Adoption Game
11
The Chosen Baby
19
The Adoptee as Mythic Hero
28
The Adoptee as Double
35
The Adoptee as Survivor
41
The Decision to Search
78
Stages of the Search
86
Varieties of Reunion Experience
101
The Journey after Reunion
141
FatherThe MiniSearch
152
Siblings
162
The Unsuspecting Spouse
168
The Restless Pulse
172

Adolescent Baggage
45
Good AdopteeBad Adoptee
55
The Adoptee as Adult
65
part twofound
69
Waking Up from the Great Sleep
71
Who Searches?
73
part threeroots and wings 21 Taking Wing
177
Telling the Adoptive Parents
178
The Right to Know
263
Notes and Sources
311
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About the author (2009)

Author and playwright Betty Jean Lifton is a leading advocate for adoption reform and an adoption counselor. Her books include Twice Born: Memoirs of an Adopted Daughter, the novel I'm Still Me, and, most recently, The King of Children: A Biography of Janusz Korczak. She lives with her husband, the author and psychiatrist Robert Jay Lifton, in New York City.

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