Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence

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Three Rivers Press, 2002 - Family & Relationships - 336 pages
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The Basis for the Movie Mean Girls
PARENTS CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN GIRL WORLD

Do you feel as though your adolescent daughter exists in a different world, speaking a different language and living by different laws? She does.

This groundbreaking book takes you inside the secret world of girls’ friendships, translating and decoding them, so parents can better understand and help their daughters navigate through these crucial years. Rosalind Wiseman has spent more than a decade listening to thousands of girls talk about the powerful role cliques play in shaping what they wear and say, how they feel about school, how they respond to boys, and how they feel about themselves. In this candid and insightful book, Wiseman discusses:

• Queen Bees, Wannabes, Targets, Torn Bystanders, and others: how to tell what role your daughter plays and help her be herself
• Girls’ power plays, from birthday invitations to cafeteria seating arrangements and illicit parties, and how to handle them
• Good popularity and bad popularity: how cliques bear on every situation
• Hip Parents, Best-Friend Parents, Pushover Parents, and others: examine your own parenting style, “Check Your Baggage,” and identify how your own background and biases affect how you relate to your daughter
• Related movies, books, websites, and organizations: a carefully annotated resources section provides opportunities to follow up on your own and with your daughter

Enlivened with the voices of dozens of girls and parents and a welcome sense of humor, Queen Bees and Wannabes is compelling reading for parents and daughters alike. A conversation piece and a reference guide, it offers the tools you need to help your daughter feel empowered and make smarter choices.
  

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Rosalind is full of practical advice and insight. - Goodreads
Such a useful parenting reference! - Goodreads
God bless Wiseman for writing this book. - Goodreads
It has amazing insight into the early girl world. - Goodreads
I found it to be helpful and a good reference. - Goodreads
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Review: Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence

User Review  - Sara - Goodreads

Having some of this lingo to use and adapt is helpful when talking with my girls. Helping them identify (and avoid) the queen bee, and find their sweet spot (my own words). Good reference. Read full review

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User Review  - Erin - Goodreads

All girl-moms need to read this book! I learned a lot from the beginning chapters (about life as an elementary schooler) and became a little scared for the high school years. :) As all self-help books ... Read full review

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Contents

Cliques and Popularity
18
Who Wants to
75
Teasing Gossip and Reputations
111
Group Dynamics and Rites
151
The judges and the Judged
175
Crushes Matchmaking
201
Sex Drugs and Rock n Roll
276
Getting Help
305
Before You Go 31 3
313
Resources
319
Good Organizations and Their Websites
328
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About the author (2002)

ROSALIND WISEMAN is cofounder of the Empower program, a not-for-profit organization that works to empower girls and boys to stop violence. She is an advisor to Liz Claiborne’s Women’s Work program and has been featured on The Oprah Show and CNN and in publications such as USA Today, the Washington Post, and the New York Times. She lives in Washington, D.C.


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