This Is Not the Life I Ordered: 50 Ways to Keep Your Head Above Water When Life Keeps Dragging You Down

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Conari Press, 2006 - Self-Help - 220 pages
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""These women inspire us to go for the gold. in our lives..They all deserve 10's!""
-Kristi Yamaguchi, Gold Medalist Figure Skater

""This is the needed inspiration to survive the worst luck and circumstances that catches women unexpectedly. Stories of individual strength to transform shock, despair and paralysis into sheer will and guts. It is the innate resources we have to climb out of the abyss and into a new life with unexpected happiness.""
-Amy Tan, Best-Selling Author, "The Joy Luck Club"

""I love this book and all the threads of wisdom!""
-Debbi Fields, Founder and Former Chairwoman, Mrs. Fields Cookies

""Full of hope and encouragement. I laughed and cried but always felt uplifted!""
-Jessica McClintock, Founder, CEO Jessica McClintock Inc.

""Even before you hear their stories, you feel their strength and find yourself engulfed (in a good way) by their spirit.""
-Gerry Laybourne, Co-founder, Chairman and CEO of Oxygen Media

If you've ever felt overworked, overwhelmed, or just plain unlucky, this book is for you. Through this collection of stories, wisdom, and practical advice, you'll meet four ordinary women who have faced extraordinary life challenges. Together, they have a history of 6 marriages, 10 children, 4 stepchildren, 6 dogs, 2 miscarriages, 2 cats, a failed adoption, widowhood, and foster parenthood. One of them was shot and left for dead on a tarmac in South America and two lived through the deaths of spouses.

Over a decade, the power and strength of their collective friendship enabled these women not only to survive, but to thrive. Join them to learn how you too can turn misfortunate events into joy-filled.

  

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Review: This Is Not the Life I Ordered: 50 Ways to Keep Your Head Above Water When Life Keeps Dragging You Down

User Review  - Maggie - Goodreads

A friend gave me this book which was an interesting read about 4 women who live in SF & have had interesting lives. The first chapter is very sad, got caught crying on the bus again, boy that's no ... Read full review

Review: This Is Not the Life I Ordered: 50 Ways to Keep Your Head Above Water When Life Keeps Dragging You Down

User Review  - Amy - Goodreads

I purchased this book to share with a friend, but read it before giving it away. The subject matter jumps around a lot which can be distracting at times. I enjoyed the quotes through out, I actually ... Read full review

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Contents

1 Convene a gathering of kitchen table friends
24
2 Transcend misfortunate events
27
3 When left on the tarmac begin to walk
30
4 When life is not what you ordered being again
37
5 Learn the secrets of the bluehaired lady
41
6 When you are standing at the edge of the pool jump in
46
Exercises and Tools for Managing Misfortunate Events
51
Learning to Love the Oops
53
30 Follow your cash so it doesnt end up in someone elses pocket
126
Exercises and Tools for Understanding Money and a Womans Worth
133
Learning to Live with Change
135
31 Never say never
136
32 Invent a secret language for change
140
33 Know that old habits hate being abandoned
144
Exercises and Tools for Learning to Live with Change
149
Reinventing Yourself
151

7 Be willing to make great mistakes
54
8 Give up thinking that you can do it all
57
9 Create todont lists
60
10 Never underestimate yourself
64
11 Dont wait until you are depressed or desperate or both to network
66
12 Dont believe that to succeed you must be more like a man
69
13 Move on move up or move out
73
14 Trust in God but row away from rocks
74
15 Listen to your inner voice
77
16 Realize that risks are part of the package
79
Exercises and Tools for Managing a Great Mistake
81
Make Courage an Everyday Companion
83
17 Know its the obstacles in the stream that make it sing
84
18 Realize that courage often means letting go
86
19 Develop a funny bone
89
20 Walk through fields of fear
93
21 Be brave on your own behalf
96
22 Earn your own red badge of courage
98
23 Let yourself cry when Tinkerbell dies
102
24 Wear a courage bracelet
106
25 Know that courage isnt only owned by heroes
110
Exercises and Tools for Strengthening Your Courage Muscle
113
Understanding Money and a Womans Worth
115
26 When you are short on dollars be rich in spirit
116
27 Learn the lessons from the dream house on Chateau Drive
119
28 Dont wait until your financial DNA has to be put on life support
121
29 Realize that Ozzie and Harriett are long gone
124
34 Recognize that chocolate melts in order to take a new form
152
35 When dreams turn to dust vacuum
156
36 Be grateful the dog did not pee on the carpet
159
37 Dont complain create
163
Exercises and Tools for Reinventing Yourself
166
Real Women Ask for Help
169
38 Learn to laugh in the dark
170
39 Ask for help and directions
172
40 Form a Merry Widows club
175
41 Build your own kitchen cabinet
177
Exercises and Tools for Finding Help
179
Facing Naysayers
181
42 Persist
182
43 Listen to your beliefs not your doubts
185
44 Take back your power
188
45 Refuse to be imprisoned by your past
189
Exercises and Tools for Facing Naysayers
193
Rebuilding Dreams
195
46 Understand that success often disguised as a dumb idea
196
47 Seek a dream catcher
199
48 Schedule a paint date
202
49 Find three wise women
208
50 Apply these lessons learned
214
Exercises and Tools for Rebuilding Dreams and Finding Wisdom
218
References
219
About the Authors
221
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Stephns is cofounder of the Center for Innovative Leadership.

Deborah Collins Stephens is the cofounder and managing partner of the Center for Innovative Leadership.

Deborah Collins Stephens is the cofounder and managing partner of the Center for Innovative Leadership.

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