The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures

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Celestial Arts, 2009 - Family & Relationships - 288 pages
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The essential guide for singles and couples who want to explore polyamory in ways that are ethically and emotionally sustainable.

For anyone who has ever dreamed of love, sex, and companionship beyond the limits of traditional monogamy, this groundbreaking guide navigates the infinite possibilities that open relationships can offer. Experienced ethical sluts Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy dispel myths and cover all the skills necessary to maintain a successful and responsible polyamorous lifestyle--from self-reflection and honest communication to practicing safe sex and raising a family. Individuals and their partners will learn how to discuss and honor boundaries, resolve conflicts, and to define relationships on their own terms.

"I couldn't stop reading it, and I for one identify as an ethical slut. This is a book for anyone interested in creating more pleasure in their lives . . . a complete guide to improving any style of relating, from going steady to having an extended family of sexual friends." --Betty Dodson, PhD, author of Sex for One

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Review: The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures

User Review  - David - Goodreads

This book may deserve more credit than I'm giving it, but since I'm not the intended audience (which seems to be aging women of the boomer generation) I really didn't get too much from it. One third ... Read full review

Review: The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures

User Review  - Caitlin - Goodreads

Twas ok, dont wanna sound too academic but this book wasn't just very... well, academic. I especially disagree on the part of sex education for children, it contained elements that were just wrong ... Read full review

About the author (2009)

JANET W. HARDY is the author of more than 10 books and founder of Greenery Press, a San Francisco Bay Area book publisher specializing in sexually adventurous books. She swore off monogamy in 1987.


Do you eat your vegetables?
Yes, but I'd rather steal your dessert.

Have any good pet stories?
My dear Amy - a gigantic shaggy lab/poodle mix who went to doggie heaven last summer - is still the stuff of legend in San Francisco's alt-sex scene. One evening, she wandered into the room during a bondage demo: a sweetie of ours was modeling a spreadeagle pose. Amy took one look at her beloved auntie and immediately flopped down next to her on her back, all four legs spread out in the identical pose, as the room dissolved in hysterics and Auntie sat up, rubbing her wrists indignantly, and sputtered, "Upstaged by a fucking dog!"

Are you "six degrees of separation" away from anyone famous?
Distantly related to Clement C. Moore, author of The Night Before Christmas.

Do you have a scar anywhere on your body? How did you get it?
A stylized elephant branded on my right calf, put there by Fakir Musafar. Elephants are large, smart and matriarchal - hence, my totem.

What was your favorite birthday?
Ah, this is a good one... my 35th, the year my two main squeezes at the time took a cabin at Sea Ranch for my birthday and we spent the weekend mushroom-hunting, binge-eating and fucking.

Name a favorite dish that your mother used to make.
"Israeli salad," which she learned to make when she was trapshooting on the American team in the Maccabiah Games, the Jewish olympics. A chopped salad made with tomatoes, cukes, hard-boiled eggs, bell peppers, etc., and tossed with olive oil and lemon juice.

What is your favorite thing about being an author?
Spelunking in my own brain.

DOSSIE EASTON is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in alternative sexualities and open relationships. She is the author of four other books. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area and has been an ethical slut since 1969.

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