It's Either Her Or Me: A Guide to Help a Mom and Her Daughter-in-law Get Along

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Bantam Books Trade Paperbacks, 2010 - Family & Relationships - 204 pages
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For a mother who's accustomed to having been number one in her son's life, the arrival of a girlfriend, fiancée, or wife can be a complicated, confusing, and emotionally challenging event. Likewise, coexisting harmoniously with the mother of her partner can be an overwhelming challenge for any woman. Sons, often caught in the middle, are sometimes understandably reluctant to take sides.

In It's Either Her or Me, relationship expert Ellie Slott Fisher examines the complex dynamics of these potentially fraught relationships and how they can be made rich in rewards for all parties. As a wife and the mother of a grown son, Fisher has been on both ends of the spectrum. She recounts her own experiences and those of the mothers, sons, girlfriends, fiancées, wives, and even sisters she interviewed. With the help of psychologist Dr. Beatrice Lazaroff and licensed professional counselor Esther Ganz, Fisher offers practical solutions to help women on both sides cope--and thrive--in this most sensitive of relationships. Discover how to
* gauge when it's time to voice an opinion--and when it's best to bite your tongue
* reach out to the woman in your son's life without being overbearing 
* handle the partner or mother-in-law who's truly impossible
* show respect to your partner's mother
* ensure that your partner's mother respects your boundaries
* deal with jealous sisters and other difficult family members
* and much more
Also including welcome advice on what he can discuss with either woman, It's Either Her or Me is an invaluable resource for women and the men they love.

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User Review  - James - Goodreads

For a man there is no more complicated dance then the one between your mother and you special lady, be that wife or Girlfriend. In Ellie Slott Fisher's new book It's Either Her or Me she endeavors to ... Read full review

Review: It's Either Her or Me: A Guide to Help a Mom and Her Daughter-in-Law Get Along

User Review  - Emily - Goodreads

This book gave me a better view to what the other woman (mom, sister-in-law, mother-in-law) might be thinking. Read full review

About the author (2010)

Ellie Slott Fisher is the author of the critically acclaimed Mom, There's a Man in the Kitchen and He's Wearing Your Robe. A veteran journalist, Fisher has written for numerous magazines as well as the anthology Single Woman of a Certain Age. A dating mom herself, she lives in Yardley, Pennsylvania, and has two children.

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