Mars and Venus Starting Over: A Practical Guide for Finding Love Again After a Painful Breakup, Divorce, or the Loss of a Loved One

John Gray

Harper Collins, Oct 13, 2009 - Self-Help - 368 pages

Is it possible to find love again after a breakup, death, or divorce?

The end of a relationship can sometimes feel like the end of the world. Devastation, loneliness, and bitterness are some emotions that exist due to a breakup, divorce, or the loss of a loved one. But with the help of this compassionate guide, Dr. John Gray expresses that you will survive and tells you how to find love again.

While the process of healing is similar with both sexes, there are distinct differences between the ways men and women heal their bruised hearts. In Mars and Venus Starting Over, Dr. Gray offers gender-specific advice on how to:

• Deal with pain
• Find forgiveness
• Discover the strength to let go
• Rebuild confidence
• Rise to the challenge of finding fulfillment again

Filled with gentle guidance, healing practices, and compassionate wisdom, Mars and Venus Starting Over will help men and women explore the meaning of loss, find their way through the healing process, and discover the secret to moving on.

Contents

• Mars and Venus Starting Over: 3
• Why Does It Hurt So Much?: 12
• Emotional Lag Time: 20
• Grieving the Loss of Love: 32
• Getting Unstuck: 39
• Good Endings Make Good Beginnings: 52
• The Feeling Better Exercise: 64
• Finding Forgiveness: 74
• Saying Goodbye with Love: 81
• Letting Go of Hurt: 103
• The 9010 Principle: 112
• Processing Our Hot Spots: 121
• Always Remember the Love: 144
• Ways to Heal Our Hearts: 157
• PART TWO Starting Over on Venus: 171
• Carrying a Big List: 173
• The New Pressures of Dating: 177
• Date Around but Dont Sleep Around: 179
• Glorifying Our Past: 182
• Staying Stuck in Grief: 184
• The Betrayal of Loving Again: 186
• Sex and SelfEsteem: 188
• Sex Obligation and SelfWorth: 190
• Expecting the Earth to Shake: 194
• The Movies vs Real Life: 197
• Attracting the Wrong Partner: 199
• Overromanticizing: 201
• Woman Seeking Sensitive Man: 203
• Focusing on the Negative: 206
• Who Needs a Man?: 208
• Women Who Do Too Much: 212
• Taking Care of Others: 219
• A Womans Fear of Intimacy: 221
• My Children Need Me: 223
• But My Children Are Jealous: 228
• Acting Out Feelings Rather than: 233
• Learning to Be Happy Alone: 239
• All or Nothing: 243
• PART THREE Starting Over on Mars: 251
• Man on the Rebound: 253
• Sex on the Rebound: 258
• Positive Addictions: 261
• Work Money and Love: 263
• Love Is Not Enough: 266
• Learning from Our Mistakes: 269
• We Dont Have to Stop Loving: 271
• Unrequited Love: 272
• Taking Responsibility to Let Go: 274
• Soul Mates Are Not Perfect: 278
• Being in a Hurry: 280
• Recognizing a Soul Mate: 282
• Living Out Our Fantasies: 284
• Cant Live With Them and Cant Live Without Them: 287
• The Endless Search: 290
• Holding Back: 294
• Being vs Doing: 297
• Bigger Is Better: 299
• Finding Balance: 303
• Picking the Right Woman: 308
• Finding the Power to Provide: 325

About the author

John Gray, Ph.D., is one of the world’s leading relationship experts, and an authority on improving communication styles for couples, companies, and communities. His many books have sold more than fifty million copies in fifty different languages worldwide. John lives with his wife and children in northern California.

Bibliographic information

• Title: Mars and Venus Starting Over: A Practical Guide for Finding Love Again After a Painful Breakup, Divorce, or the Loss of a Loved One
• Author: John Gray
• Edition: reprint
• Publisher: Harper Collins, 2009
• ISBN: 0061861871, 9780061861871
• Length: 368 pages
• Subjects: Family & Relationships / Divorce & Separation; Family & Relationships / General; Family & Relationships / Marriage & Long-Term Relationships; Self-Help / Personal Growth / Self-Esteem