Grown-Up Marriage: What We Know, Wish We Had Known, and Still Need to Know About Being Married (Google eBook)

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Simon and Schuster, Jun 23, 2008 - Family & Relationships - 304 pages
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Although marriage is for grown-ups, very few of us are grown up when we marry. Here, the bestselling author of Suddenly Sixty and Necessary Losses presents her life-affirming perspective on the joys, heartaches, difficulties, and possibilities of a grown-up marriage -- and no, that's not an oxymoron!
Featuring interviews with married women and men, the findings of couples therapists, the truths offered by literature and movies, and a bemused exploration of her own marriage, Judith Viorst illuminates the issues couples struggle with from "I do" through "till death do us part." Examining marital rivalry, marital manners, marital sex (extramarital, too), marital fighting and apologies, what kids do for (and to) marriage, and the boredom and bliss of everyday married life, Viorst leaves no marital stone unturned. From the early years when we wonder "Who is this person?" and "What am I doing here?" to the realities of divorce, remarriage, and growing older (and old) together, Viorst offers insights and advice with honesty, humanity, and humor -- all the while recognizing how tough it is to be married and, when it works, how very precious it can be.

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Review: Grown-Up Marriage: What We Know, Wish We Had Known, and Still Need to Know About Being Married

User Review  - Virlys - Goodreads

Anyone who is married, might one day be married, is considering marriage, or is engaged to be married ought to relate to the stories, problems, joys, frustrations, and realizations of the real life ... Read full review

Review: Grown-Up Marriage: What We Know, Wish We Had Known, and Still Need to Know About Being Married

User Review  - Rebekah - Goodreads

I'm with the reviewer who thought the title was promising but was disappointed with the book. Of all the fluffy self-help books I waste my time with, this one's the fluffiest. I don't think she says anything, at all. Read full review


The First Shocks of Marriage 29
Marriage and the Families 3 47
How Kids Change the Couple 71
Ordinary Everyday Married Life 5 95
Marital Sibling Rivalry 117
Married Sex 137
Making War Making Up Making Do 163
The Divorce Option 9 187
Marrying Again 213
Growing Older Together 233
Staying Married 255
Notes 265
Bibliography 279
Index 285

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About the author (2008)

Judith Viorst was born and brought up in New Jersey, graduated from Rutgers University, moved to Greenwich Village, and has lived in Washington, DC, since 1960, when she married Milton Viorst, a political writer. They have three sons and seven grandchildren. Viorst writes in many different areas: science books, children’s picture books, adult fiction and nonfiction, poetry for children and adults, and musicals, which are still performed on stages around the country. She is best known for her beloved picture book Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day.

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