If the Buddha Married: Creating Enduring Relationships on a Spiritual Path

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Penguin, 2001 - Family & Relationships - 250 pages
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If the Buddha Married is filled with the same highly practical, spiritually sound guidance that so clearly touched a chord with readers of If the Buddha Dated. Charlotte Kasl, Ph.D., is renowned for her ability to speak with depth, wisdom, and humor on important matters of the heart.

In this new book, Kasl inspires us to create fulfilling and vibrant relationships through a commitment to awareness and truth. Combining key teachings of Buddhism with elements of psychology, If the Buddha Married becomes a wise and trusted guide through the joys and thickets of relationships that last and grow.
  

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Review: If the Buddha Married: Creating Enduring Relationships on a Spiritual Path

User Review  - Bruce - Goodreads

I do appreciate the way Dr Kasl,brought our natures source as the importance of energetic foundation. And in so knowing WE all can establish harmonic relationships,in what love is. Read full review

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User Review  - Hu Di - Goodreads

No matter where you are in a relationship, dating, engaged, newly wed, celebrating 25 anniversary, there is a great deal for everyone to learn in the book. I listened to the audio book at audible. It ... Read full review

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Contents

BUDDHISM FOR LOVERS AND PARTNERS
3
SAY HELLO TO YOUR BELOVED SUFISM
15
LEARN TO TRUST YOURSELF THE SOCIETY OF FRIENDS
17
EXPLORE THE SOURCE OF AN ENDURING BOND
19
DISCOVER THE FREEDOM OF BEGINNERS MIND
29
TUNE IN TO YOURSELF TUNE IN TO YOUR LOVER
34
I YOU AND US A DANCE IN THREE PARTS
37
EXPERIENCE THE US PLACE OF RELATIONSHIP BECOMING MORE THAN WE COULD BE ALONE
39
GIVE NO ADVICEWELL MOST OF THE TIME
133
ASK FOR NO ADVICEEXCEPT SOMETIMES
136
YOU CAN DEFEND YOURSELF WITHOUT BEING DEFENSIVE
138
LEARN THE ART OF APOLOGY
140
REBUILD THE BRIDGE FORGIVENESS AND LETTING GO
143
MAKE FRIENDS WITH CONFLICT
147
THE ART OF HANDLING CONFLICT
149
MEETING OUR DIFFERENCES FIGHT THE GOOD FIGHT
150

EXPERIENCE LIVING IN AN US PLACE
42
CREATE MORE US CONSCIOUSNESS
44
FEEL THE HEALING POWER OF CONNECTION
50
LOOK IN YOUR OWN MIRROR
53
RECOGNIZE THE MASKS YOU WEAR
55
ASK YOURSELF AM I TALKING ABOUT MYSELF?
58
REMEMBER TO ASK WHO OWNS THE PROBLEM?
60
LIVE IN THE CENTER OF YOUR OWN LIFE
61
NOTICE THE STORIES YOU TELL YOURSELF
63
THE DAILY PRACTICE OF LIVING AND LOVING
65
TREASURE TRUST KEEP AGREEMENTS WITH GREAT CARE
67
TUNE INTO YOUR DEEPER MOTIVATION
70
THATS NOT WHAT I SAID NOTICE YOUR INTERPRETATIONS
72
LEARN TO TRUST YOUR INTUITION
76
OF LOVE AND LITTER DEALING WITH COMPULSIONS IN RELATIONSHIPS
79
EXPLORE MEDITATION AND PSYCHOTHERAPY
84
WHEN I WAS A CHILD I SPOKE AS A CHILD AM I STILL DOING IT NOW?
89
ASK YOURSELF WHAT AGE AM I AT THIS MOMENT?
91
FIND OUT WHO MARRIED WHOM
97
RECOGNIZE THE VALUE OF LEAVING HOME
99
EXPLORE LEVELS OF RELATIONSHIPS
102
LEVEL ONE AFRAID TO BE CLOSE AFRAID TO BE SEPARATE
104
LEVEL TWO SOMETIMES I SEE YOU SOMETIMES I DONT
106
LEVEL THREE KNOWING YOURSELF SO YOU CAN KNOW YOUR BELOVED
113
LEVEL FOUR FEELING AT PEACE WITH CLOSENESS AND SEPARATENESS
118
LEVEL FIVE I AND THOUWE ARE ONE WE ARE TWO
120
COMMUNION IS THE PURPOSE OF COMMUNICATION
125
TUNE IN TO THE DANCE OF SENDING AND RECEIVING MESSAGES
127
REMEMBER THE BASICS OF GOOD COMMUNICATION
128
PRACTICE CONFLICT PREVENTION
154
RECOGNIZE COUNTERFEIT CONFLICTS
157
REMEMBER WE ARE ANIMALS WITH A NEOCORTEX RECOGNIZE FIGHT FLIGHT AND FREEZE REACTIONS
160
RECOGNIZE THE MANY FACES OF ANGER
164
WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU REACH AN IMPASSE
175
LEARN FAIRFIGHT RULES
179
LEARN TO SELFSOOTHE
182
MORE CLARITY MORE LOVE HELP A GOOD RELATIONSHIP GET BETTER
188
MAKING LOVE WITH THE BELOVED
191
MAKING LOVE THE UNION OF BODY AND SPIRIT
193
SEXUAL HIGH OR SEXUAL CONNECTION WHATS THE DIFFERENCE?
199
FINDING OUT WHY THE FIRE HAS FADED
204
DEEPEN YOUR SEXUAL BOND
207
SUPPORT EACH OTHER BEING COMPLETELY HONEST
210
STAY LOVERS DURING THE PARENTING YEARS
213
UNDERSTAND THE TRUE MEANING OF MONOGAMY
215
WHAT TO DO WITH ATTRACTION TO OTHERS
217
MAKE LOVE WITH A BEGINNERS MIND
221
I AND THOU EVEN GOOD RELATIONSHIPS CAN GET BETTER
225
KEEP YOUR RELATIONSHIP DANCING
227
BE CREATIVE TOGETHER
230
REMEMBER OUR TASK IS TO EXPAND OUR LOVENOT TO CHANGE OTHERS
232
ACCEPT LIFES DAILY LOSSES
235
RELATIONSHIPS NEED TENDING AND TENDING TAKES TIME
239
YOUR LOVING RELATIONSHIP BLESSES THE WORLD
241
RECOMMENDED READING
245
RESOURCES
249
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About the author (2001)

Charlotte Kasl, Ph.D., a practicing therapist and nationally recognized workshop leader for more than 20 years, has had lifelong connections to feminism, Buddhism, Quaker practice, and Reiki healing. The author of several books including Finding Joy, she lives in Lolo, Montana.

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