Etiquette, the American Code of Manners: A Study of the Usages, Laws, and Observances which Govern Intercourse in the Best Circles of American Society (Google eBook)

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G. Routledge & sons, 1884 - Etiquette - 397 pages
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Page 309 - twas a sound Of something without place or bound; And seemed to give me spiritual right To travel through that region bright. The voice was soft, and she who spake Was walking by her native lake: The salutation had to me The very sound of courtesy...
Page 27 - Is it to be honest, to be gentle, to be generous, to be brave, to be wise, and, possessing all these qualities, to exercise them in the most graceful outward manner?
Page 11 - ... who preserves the order and the decency of society. Without women, men soon resume the savage state, and the comfort and the grace of the home are exchanged for the misery of the mining camp. In America we have the foundation of good manners, in the great chivalry of the men. No men have so profound a respect for women ; and this is the beginning of the best etiquette. Politeness, which Sidney Smith said was one of the Christian graces, should flow from the heart, and a tenderness and protection,...
Page 278 - IT was the remark of a famous editor who visited America several years ago, and who afterward wrote a book about us, that an American knew how to be a host, but did not yet understand the etiquette of being a guest. It is probably quite true that, according to the English idea, an American did not, in former years, understand the severe etiquette which reigns in an English country-house. There the guests are expected to come at the hour invited, and to leave precisely by the train which is specified...
Page 256 - ... One should always think of what one is about; when one is learning, one should not think of play; and when one is at play, one should not think of one's learning. Besides that, if you do not mind your book while you are at it, it will be a double trouble to you, for you must learn it all over again. One of the most important points in life is decency; which is to do what is proper and where it is proper; for many things are proper at one time, and in one place, that are extremely improper in...
Page 116 - Manners are of more importance than laws. Upon them, in a great measure, the laws depend. The law touches us but here and there, and now and then. Manners are what vex or soothe, corrupt or purify, exalt or debase, barbarize or refine us, by a constant, steady, uniform, insensible operation, like that of the air we breathe in. They give their whole form and colour to our lives. According to their quality, they aid morals, they supply them, or they totally destroy them.
Page 348 - Still less say of anything which you enjoy at table, "I love it." "I love melons," "I love peaches," "I adore grapes "—these are schoolgirl utterances. We love our friends. Love is an emotion of the heart, but not one of the palate. We like, we appreciate grapes, but we do not love them.
Page 205 - ... gesture, manner. American women talk and laugh too loud. They are seldom taught to speak with a clear, antinasal voice ; they are often boisterous, and even at Vassar College, where women receive a most admirable education, and at the fashionable boarding-schools in New York, there is not enough attention given to elocution as applied to ordinary conversation and reading aloud, that beautiful art so much neglected. The English are far ahead of us in this accomplishment of a beautiful speaking...
Page 150 - At last the much-desired opportunity presents itself, and they enter the celestial portals. Their surroundings, when they find themselves there, may possibly surpass their fondest wishes, but, as regards themselves, all is not satisfactory ; on the contrary, they are conscious of a complete, indescribable failure.

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