Outdated: Why Dating Is Ruining Your Love LifeRomance and love are in a state of crisis: Statistically speaking, young women today are living romantic lives of all kinds—but they’re still feeling bogged down by social, cultural, economic, and familial pressures to love in a certain way. Young women in the modern world have greater flexibility than ever when it comes to who we choose to love and how we choose to love them; but while social circumstances may have changed since our parents’ generation, certain life expectations remain. In Outdated, Samhita Mukhopadhyay addresses the difficulty of negotiating loving relationships within the borderlands of race, culture, class, and sexuality-and of holding true to our convictions and maintaining our independence while we do it. Outdated analyzes how different forms of media, cultural norms, family pressure, and even laws, are produced to scare women into believing that if they don’t devote themselves to finding a man, they’ll be doomed to a life of loneliness and shame. Using interviews with young women that are living around, between, within, and outside of the romantic industrial complex, Mukhopadhyay weaves a narrative of the alternative ways that women today have elected to live their lives, and in doing so offers a fresh, feminist look at an old topic: How do diverse, independent young women date happily and successfully—and outside of the box? |
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... choices available to us based on the various ways in which we identify, and act on those choices based on who we are. My hope is that an intersectional feminist analysis of dating—initiated through this book—opens up space for us to ...
... choices, roles, and behaviors of our political leaders force us into limited options for our relationships. We'll look at how nationalist ideas of womanhood limit our choices when it comes to how we experience being women, and how the ...
... choices where relationships are concerned. And yet, despite the fact that we're seeing alternative choices as more legitimate options, there is still a tremendous amount of pressure to fit into a “normal” relationship mold. Mainstream ...
... choices as opposed to larger structural problems (such as sexualization of girls in the media—a much more plausible cause for supposed “raunch” culture than feminism). One very effective feminist tool in distorting feminism was shifting ...
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Contents
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Searching For Citizenship In The State Of Love | 41 |
Cinderella 20 | 62 |
Top Five Sexist Myths | 84 |
Single And Lovin It Sorta | 110 |
Nice Guys Pickup Artists And The Masculinity Crisis | 133 |
Dating While Feminist DWF | 154 |
Naughty Girls Need Love Too | 176 |
The Art of Feminist Romantic Maintenance | 203 |
Notes | 225 |
Acknowledgments | 232 |