Men's Work: How to Stop the Violence That Tears Our Lives Apart (Google eBook)

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Hazelden Publishing, Aug 21, 2013 - Abusive men - 250 pages
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Sexual harassment, child abuse, incest, rape, murder, war--it's impossible today to hear a news report and not be informed of violent acts perpetrated by men. Acknowledging that there are no easy answers to the problem of male violence--particularly in a world that seems to thrive on aggression and physical force--Men's Work reaches straight to its root causes. In his ground-breaking work, author Paul Kivel helps men confront the political, social, and personal forces that generate and reward misogyny, hatred, anger, and violent behavior.

Combining years of personal study and reflection with his work with men in the Oakland Men's Project, Men's Work presents an innovative and workable approach to stopping male violence. Kivel shows men how to reclaim the power and responsibility needed to unlearn the lessons of control and aggression.

Paul Kivel is a nationally known expert on men's issues. Through his work at the Oakland Men's Project, he helps men confront and change violent behaviors and teaches alternatives to violence in their relationships. He also trains teachers, therapists, probation officers, and agency staff who work with men, exploring such topics as male/female relationships, alternatives to violence, family violence, and sexual assault. Kivel resides in Oakland, California.

  

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Review: Men's Work: How to Stop the Violence That Tears Our Lives Apart

User Review  - Reynaldo Valldejuli - Goodreads

If you are on a personal journey to remove violence from your life and to deal with violence from your past then this is the book for you. It will force you to face your fears and learn from them. It ... Read full review

Review: Men's Work: How to Stop the Violence That Tears Our Lives Apart

User Review  - Michael Hsu - Goodreads

When I was a little boy, my Mom would tell me to stop crying like a girl whenever I hurt myself from falling or other mishaps. Growing up, this has thought me I have to learn to suppress my feelings ... Read full review

Contents

PART I
1
Men Relating to Men
31
The Pain of Acting Like a Man
32
Changing Your Relationships with Men
33
Men Relating to Women 3 5
35
Our Attitudes toward Women
49
Mens Attitudes and the Cost to Women
51
Relating to Our Cultural and Ethnic Traditions 5 3
53
Becoming Workers and Teachers
143
Getting Help for Ourselves
146
Getting Help for Ourselves
149
Getting Help for Others
154
PART IV
157
The Benefits of Being Male
171
Going to Prison
175
The Violence of Racism
190

Cultural Racial and Class Background
62
PART II
65
Using the Power Chart
74
Drugs and Violence
76
Drugs and Violence
84
Anger Is Not the Problem
87
Skills for Anger Work
90
Why Are Men Violent?
93
Dealing with Violence
109
PART III
115
Male Spirituality 123
123
Becoming Fathers i
125
Becoming a Father
127
Becoming Partners
129
Becoming Partners
135
Becoming Workers and Teachers
137
Exercises on Racism for Racially Mixed Groups
192
Stand Up Exercise for White People
195
The Next Generation
209
Teens and Power
220
Teen Power 114
224
Checklist for Working with Teens 226
226
Taking the Time 217
227
Parenting Nonviolently 139
239
Conclusion 243
243
Appendix
257
Bibliography 165
265
Reading List
285
Videography
291
About the Author
303
Copyright

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