The Secret Lives of Girls: What Good Girls Really Do--Sex Play, Aggression, and Their Guilt

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Simon and Schuster, Mar 1, 2002 - Psychology - 255 pages
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From playground games of " chase and kiss" to rough-and-tumble soccer games, from slumber party stripteases to romantic fantasies behind closed doors, author Sharon Lamb coaxes out girls' true stories with uncommon sensitivity and focus. The result of more than 125 fascinating interviews with pre-teens, teenagers, and adult women, The Secret Lives of Girls reveals the ways that girls use their minds and bodies for private sexual play, mischief, and hidden aggression. To truly understand what little girls are made of, Lamb suggests, we must listen not only to what they say to us but also to what they don't say, taking into account their hidden selves and the lives that we adults don't see. Yes, girls are known to be " good, " but they manage to act out in decidedly ungirlish ways and, despite many parents' fears, be the better for it. What's most remarkable about Lamb's conclusions is that we needn't join the chorus of voices deploring a " girl-poisoning" culture for damaging our daughters. Instead, Lamb finds reason to celebrate girls' resilience in the face of pressures to conform -- and she does it by l
  

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Review: The Secret Lives of Girls: What Good Girls Really Do--Sex Play, Aggression, and Their Guilt

User Review  - Ayelet Waldman - Goodreads

Did you know the extent of sexual play that goes on in the lives of little girls? I bet you did, but thought you were just...unique. Weird. Odd. Read this and find out how normal it all is. Read full review

Review: The Secret Lives of Girls: What Good Girls Really Do--Sex Play, Aggression, and Their Guilt

User Review  - Michelle Cristiani - Goodreads

This book was divided into sexuality and aggression, both of which Lamb clams should not be supressed in girls. I agree, and this book touched me personally. I remember early shame over my sexuality ... Read full review

Contents

Good Girls Versus Real Girls
1
The Sexual Lives of Girls
11
Aggression Destruction and Being Mean
139
Conclusion
225
Notes
231
Index
249
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