The Gift of Therapy (Google eBook)

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Harper Collins, Oct 13, 2009 - Psychology - 320 pages
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The culmination of master psychiatrist Dr. Irvin D. Yalom's more than thirty-five years in clinical practice, The Gift of Therapy is a remarkable and essential guidebook that illustrates through real case studies how patients and therapists alike can get the most out of therapy. The bestselling author of Love's Executioner shares his uniquely fresh approach and the valuable insights he has gained—presented as eighty-five personal and provocative "tips for beginner therapists," including:

  • Let the patient matter to you
  • Acknowledge your errors
  • Create a new therapy for each patient
  • Do home visits
  • (Almost) never make decisions for the patient
  • Freud was not always wrong

A book aimed at enriching the therapeutic process for a new generation of patients and counselors, Yalom's Gift of Therapy is an entertaining, informative, and insightful read for anyone with an interest in the subject.

  

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Easy to read and has great tips for new therapists. - Goodreads
Excellent pointers on style and technique - Goodreads
Overall, it was impressive, educational and fun. - Goodreads
Excellent, direct prose. - Goodreads
Full of insightful little tips for therapists. - Goodreads
A wise clinician and a great writer. - Goodreads

Review: The Gift of Therapy: An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients

User Review  - Sudha Shashwati - Goodreads

This book did to my therapist self what 'Letters to a young poet' had done a few months back to my writer self. And the mention of the latter in the introduction only increased the appeal of this book ... Read full review

Review: The Gift of Therapy: An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients

User Review  - Joshua M. - Goodreads

Reading this book was an absolute pleasure. Dr. Yalom writes with such clarity and openness making it easy to connect and learn from the material. He describes each approach with valuable and ... Read full review

Contents

Remove the Obstacles to Growth
1
Avoid Diagnosis Except for Insurance Companies
4
Therapist and Patient as Fellow Travelers
6
Engage the Patient
11
Be Supportive
13
Looking Out the Patients Window
17
Teach Empathy
23
Let the Patient Matter to You
26
Freedom
137
Helping Patients Assume Responsibility
139
Never Almost Never Make Decisions for the Patient
142
A Via Regia into Existential Bedrock
146
Focus on Resistance to Decision
148
Facilitating Awareness by Advice Giving
150
Facilitating DecisionsOther Devices
155
Conduct Therapy as a Continuous Session
158

Acknowledge Your Errors
30
Create a New Therapy for Each Patient
33
The Therapeutic Act Not the Therapeutic Word
37
Engage in Personal Therapy
40
The Therapist Has Many Patients The Patient One Therapist
44
The HereandNowUse It Use It Use It
46
Why Use the HereandNow?
47
Using the HereandNow Grow Rabbit Ears
49
Search for HereandNow Equivalents
52
Working Through Issues in the HereandNow
58
The HereandNow Energizes Therapy
62
Use Your Own Feelings as Data
65
Frame HereandNow Comments Carefully
68
All Is Grist for the HereandNow Mill
70
Check into the HereandNow Each Hour
72
What Lies Have You Told Me?
74
Blank Screen? Forget It Be Real
75
Three Kinds of Therapist SelfDisclosure
83
The Mechanism of Therapy Be Transparent
84
Revealing HereandNow Feelings Use Discretion
87
Revealing the Therapists Personal Life Use Caution
90
Revealing Your Personal LifeCaveats
94
Therapist Transparency and Universality
97
Patients Will Resist Your Disclosure
99
Avoid the Crooked Cure
102
On Taking Patients Further Than You Have Gone
104
On Being Helped by Your Patient
106
Encourage Patient SelfDisclosure
109
Feedback in Psychotherapy
112
Provide Feedback Effectively and Gently
115
Increase Receptiveness to Feedback by Using Parts
119
Strike When the Iron Is Cold
121
Talk About Death
124
Death and Life Enhancement
126
How to Talk About Death
129
Talk About Life Meaning
133
Take Notes of Each Session
160
Encourage SelfMonitoring
162
When Your Patient Weeps
164
Give Yourself Time Between Patients
166
Express Your Dilemmas Openly
168
Do Home Visits
171
Dont Take Explanation Too Seriously
174
TherapyAccelerating Devices
179
Therapy as a Dress Rehearsal for Life
182
Use the Initial Complaint as Leverage
184
Dont Be Afraid of Touching Your Patient
187
Never Be Sexual with Patients
191
Look for Anniversary and LifeStage Issues
195
Never Ignore Therapy Anxiety
197
Doctor Take Away My Anxiety
200
On Being Loves Executioner
201
Taking a History
206
A History of the Patients Daily Schedule
208
How Is the Patients Life Peopled?
210
Interview the Significant Other
211
Explore Previous Therapy
213
Sharing the Shade of the Shadow
215
Freud Was Not Always Wrong
217
CBT Is Not What Its Cracked Up to Be Or Dont Be Afraid of the EVT Bogeyman
222
DreamsUse Them Use Them Use Them
225
Full Interpretation of a Dream? Forget It
227
Pillage and Loot
228
Master Some Dream Navigational Skills
235
Learn About the Patients Life from Dreams
238
Pay Attention to the First Dream
243
Attend Carefully to Dreams About the Therapist
246
Beware the Occupational Hazards
251
Cherish the Occupational Privileges
256
NOTES
261
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About the author (2009)

Irvin D. Yalom, M.D., is the author of Love's Executioner, Momma and the Meaning of Life, Lying on the Couch, The Schopenhauer Cure, When Nietzsche Wept, as well as several classic textbooks on psychotherapy, including The Theory and Practice of Group Psychotherapy, considered the foremost work on group therapy. The Professor Emeritus of Psychiatry at Stanford University, he divides his practice between Palo Alto, where he lives, and San Francisco, California.

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