When Friendship Hurts: How to Deal with Friends Who Betray, Abandon, or Wound You (Google eBook)

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Simon and Schuster, May 11, 2010 - Self-Help - 240 pages
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We've all had friendships that have gone bad. Whether it takes the form of a simple yet inexplicable estrangement or a devastating betrayal, a failed friendship can make your life miserable, threaten your success at work or school, and even undermine your romantic relationships.

Finally there is help. In When Friendship Hurts, Jan Yager, recognized internationally as a leading expert on friendship, explores what causes friendships to falter and explains how to mend them -- or end them. In this straightforward, illuminating book filled with dozens of quizzes and real-life examples, Yager covers all the bases, including:

The twenty-one types of negative friends -- a rogues' gallery featuring such familiar types as the Blood-sucker, the Fault-finder, the Promise Breaker, and the Copycat

How to recognize destructive friends as well as how to find ideal ones

The e-mail effect -- how electronic communication has changed friendships for both the better and the worse

The misuse of friendship at work -- how to deal with a co-worker's lies, deceit, or attempts at revenge

How to stop obsessing about a failed friendship

And much more

The first highly prescriptive book to focus on the complexities of friendship, When Friendship Hurts demonstrates how, why, and when to let go of bad friends and how to develop the positive friendships that enrich our lives on every level. For everyone who has ever wondered about friends who betray, hurt, or reject them, this authoritative book provides invaluable insights and advice to resolve the problem once and for all.

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Review: When Friendship Hurts: How to Deal with Friends Who Betray, Abandon, or Wound You

User Review  - Courtney Wells - Goodreads

About a year and a half ago, I moved from New York City, where I'd lived for 10 years, and moved to DC to attend graduate school. I knew it would be hard to be away from my friends, but I never ... Read full review

Review: When Friendship Hurts: How to Deal with Friends Who Betray, Abandon, or Wound You

User Review  - Bala Pisupati - Goodreads

I guess I just bought it in as a series didn't 't really care much while going through. May be didn't need to even need it - Read full review


What Is a Friend?
Detecting Harmful People Before Theyre Friends
Why Do Friends Hurt Friends?
Can This Friendship Be Saved?
When and How to End It
Are the Rules Different?
Finding Good Friends
Where to Go from Here
Selected Bibliography

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About the author (2010)

Jan Yager, Ph.D., is a sociologist and the author of Friendshifts®: The Power of Friendship and How It Shapes Our Lives. Recognized as the number one expert on friendship in the country, she has been seen and heard on Oprah, The View, The O'Reilly Factor, and NPR, as well as on numerous other national television and radio programs. She lives in Fairfield County, Connecticut.

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