You'd Better Not Die Or I'll Kill You: A Caregiver's Survival Guide to Keeping You in Good Health and Good Spirits

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Chronicle Books, Oct 31, 2012 - Biography & Autobiography - 288 pages
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Bestselling writer Jane Heller thought she'd found her dream man—until he turned out to be a "frequent flier," the term doctors and nurses use to refer to patients who land in the E.R. more often than the average person goes to Starbucks. Here, Jane shares her experiences of looking after her chronically ill husband with Nora Ephron–like wit, and offers practical guidance for handling it all without drowning. With advice on staying healthy while caring for a loved one and learning to communicate with medical staff, plus wisdom from other caregivers and experts, this is a personal and invaluable tool kit that also manages to prompt laughter and inspire. For the more than 65 million caregivers in the US alone, this book couldn't be more timely or important.
  

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Review: You'd Better Not Die or I'll Kill You: A Caregiver's Survival Guide to Keeping You in Good Health and Good Spirits

User Review  - Leigh - Goodreads

Lots of good advice and an excellent writing style. Loved this book, highly recommend it to caregivers everywhere. Read full review

Review: You'd Better Not Die or I'll Kill You: A Caregiver's Survival Guide to Keeping You in Good Health and Good Spirits

User Review  - Katherine Blocksdorf - Goodreads

I cried at many points in this book because I recognized so much of my own experiences in the stories in this book. Lots of good advice, even though as a caregiver, you're probably just too exhausted ... Read full review

Contents

Introduction
8
What Is a Caregiver Anyway?
20
Navigating Past the FreakOut
31
Making Emergency Room Visits and Insanity Mutually Exclusive
49
DoctorsCant Live with Em Cant Live Without Em
59
How to Turn Even the Crankiest NursesAidesMedical Personnel into Buddies
71
When Loved Ones Take on a Different Personality and You Start Wishing Theyd Disappear
79
How to Wait Out Waiting Rooms
91
Caregiver Sleep Doesnt Have to Be an Oxymoron
161
The Great EscapeTaking a Mental Vacation
165
Being a Crybaby Isnt Necessarily a Bad Thing
173
Sometimes Laughter Isnt the Best MedicineIts the Only Medicine
177
Just Breathe Or Meditate Or Both
187
Who Has Time to Cook a Healthy Meal? We Do
197
The ExerciseConundrum
207
Sex? Romance? Is Anybody Getting Any?
215

The Hospital Room Etiquette Miss Manners Never Told Us About
97
Whos the Bossof Me?
102
Getting on the Same Page as that Sister Who Drives You Nuts and Other Family Matters
107
Who Knew Friends Could Be So Unfriendly?
117
Does Working Mean You Dont Care or Does Caring Mean You Dont Work?
125
The Home HealthCare Invasion
131
Using the F Word as in Facility
141
Finding a Shoulderor Tento Lean On
155
When to See a Shrink
225
Spiritual Care Isnt Necessarily Just for the Spiritual
233
Getting Through the Goodbye
242
Yes There Are Silver Linings
257
When Caregiver Becomes Caregivee
269
Famous Last Words
281
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About the author (2012)

Jane Heller is the author of 13 novels. Jane lives in Santa Barbara, California, with her husband, Michael Forester.

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