How to be a Friend to a Friend Who's Sick

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PublicAffairs, 2013 - Biography & Autobiography - 283 pages
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Everyone knows someone who’s sick or suffering. Yet when a friend or relative is under duress many of us feel uncertain about how to cope.

Throughout her recent bout with breast cancer, Letty Cottin Pogrebin became fascinated by her friends’ and family’s diverse reactions to her and her illness: how awkwardly some of them behaved; how some misspoke or misinterpreted her needs; and how wonderful it was when people read her right. She began talking to her fellow patients and dozens of other veterans of serious illness, seeking to discover what sick people wished their friends knew about how best to comfort, help, and even simply talk to them.

Now Pogrebin has distilled their collective stories and opinions into this wide-ranging compendium of pragmatic guidance and usable wisdom. Her advice is always infused with sensitivity, warmth, and humor. It is embedded in candid stories from her own and others’ journeys, and their sometimes imperfect interactions with well-meaning friends. How to Be a Friend to a Friend Who’s Sick is an invaluable guidebook for anyone hoping to rise to the challenges of this most important and demanding passage of friendship.
  

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Review: How to Be a Friend to a Friend Who's Sick

User Review  - Jaana Ylikangas - Goodreads

A rather wide range of difficulties were covered. The book contains heart warming and heart breaking accounts of deeds by friends, family and people who were sick. Its main asset is providing the ... Read full review

Review: How to Be a Friend to a Friend Who's Sick

User Review  - Lena R - Goodreads

I found this book when trying to support one of my closest friends through breast cancer earlier this year. Pogrebrin's candidly shares her personal experience as a breast cancer patient, and bases ... Read full review

Contents

My Summer ofBliss
1
Cant Believe You Said That
15
TWO How to Give Good Visits
63
THREE The Perfect Present
101
and HowI Came to Love This One
123
FOUR Two Degrees of Separation
135
Company in the Cave
147
SIX Your Money or Your Health
177
SEVEN Dealing with DementiaRelating
185
EIGHT Coming Through for a Friend
195
Meditations on My Mortality
207
NINE As Bad as It Gets
213
TEN The Best of FriendsCase Histories
239
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
263
INDEX
273
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About the author (2013)

Letty Cottin Pogrebin is an award-winning journalist, widely published opinion writer, acclaimed public speaker, admired political activist, and author of several nonfiction bestsellers, including Growing Up Free, Getting Over Getting Older, and Deborah, Golda, and Me. Her last book was a novel, Three Daughters. She lives in New York.

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