A User’S Guide to Your Mind Volume Ii How to Win in Love & Get Along with Each Other: Hook Up, Make Up, & Break up with Emotional Intelligence, Volume 2

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iUniverse, Nov 21, 2011 - Self-Help - 376 pages
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Thoughts are very real things. They can be compared to the elements that create the weather we experience. From clear and sunny to overcast and dreary, your thought-machine mind creates your reality.

Whether or not you are consciously aware of it, you alone control the angles and rotations of the kaleidoscopic mirrors within the workings of your mind. If you dont like your reality, you can always adjust your outlook simply by adjusting your way of thinking. One of lifes mercies is that we can retrain our mind.

This guide is an appeal for rational thinking. When all is said and done, there are only three fundamental areas over which you have any real control in your life: how you think/feel (as in two sides of the same coin), how you act, and how you react. When you are unhappy in life or love, the best place to start looking for both the cause and the cure is within the inner narrative of your thoughts. It is here you will find the fountainhead of resiliency from which your strength and well-being flow.

Resiliency in people is not an accidental occurrence; rather, it is the cumulative effect of an individuals decision making. In a nutshell, humans need not always interpret things in the negative, instead, the choice to view things either as a positive or as a negative is entirely your own to make. The intelligent approach insists you strive to see both the positive and the negative in people, situations, and events. Doing so wont negate the negative, it simply helps to balance it.

The knowledge contained in A Users Guide to Your Mind is threefold: how to live mindfully of your thoughts, how to exercise emotional intelligence in relationships, and how to exercise social intelligence in everyday life. Exercising social and emotional intelligencealong with good old common senseis essential to soundly managing your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.

If you are tired of just talking about making changes and are now actually prepared to do something about it, the guidance within will provide detailed blueprints to get you started in redesigning your life and relationships. Best of all, you can implement what you learn as you see fit, according to your own goals, value system, and moral principles. This book shows you how.

 

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Reviewed June 9, 2012
By Brian Wilson
A book for all seasons...
....This book is packed with pearls regarding self knowledge, managing your emotions, and traversing the slippery slopes of relationships. It is not a book you can read like a novel, but rather one that you pick up every day or two, reading a short passage, and then spending some time thinking about and then applying the ideas to your own life. Read it like you are slowly treading through a beautifully manicured garden, stopping to appreciate the smallest flowers along a hidden path. Ideas are present for managing all the seasons of our relationships. Enjoy!  

Contents

Introduction
1
Practical Knowledge for SelfDirected Personal Transformation
2
Hooking Up Guidelines for Smartly Selecting Your Mate Sailing Away Together on Lifes Great Adventure
89
Making Up Guidelines for When Youre Thinking of Jumping Ship
171
Breaking Up Guidelines for When to Weigh Anchor Sail Off Solo on a Bright Sunshiny Day
247
Notes
339
About the Author
341
Dont be shy
343
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Michael Ra Bouchard, MA, PhD, is a board-certified clinical sexologist and relationship therapist, and founder of Aloha Sexual Health & Happiness Counseling Center in the Hawaiian Islands. For over twenty-five years-while variously based in New Orleans, San Francisco, Manhattan, and Hawaii-he has helped thousands of individuals and couples overcome sexual, marital, and relationship challenges. He and his wife, Noelani, make their home in a sunshiny rainforest along with their beloved menagerie of poi dogs, cats, and koi.

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