Accidentally Single

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Penguin Group Australia, Feb 1, 2010 - Self-Help - 360 pages
Accidentally Single, by John Aiken the author of U-Turn: Putting You Back Into Your Relationship.
Do your relationships fizzle out before they get started? Do you have more dating disasters than successes? Are you often left wondering why everyone has a partner except you? Many of us say we want to find someone special, then act in ways that drive away potential partners. Psychologist John Aiken has spent years listening to his clients talk about the difficulties of finding that special person, and has come to the conclusion that most of our dating mistakes are ones we don't even know we are making. John identifies the fifteen mistakes that hold single people back, including being too bossy and picky, being attracted to unavailable types and being hung up onthe past. He provides his own dating stories as well as step-by-step advice on how to overcome these mistakes and make room in our lives for love.
Insightful, authoritative and revealing, Accidentally Single is for those who want to find 'the one', and are prepared to do what it takes to make it happen.
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'Partly informed by his own dating adventures, the now-married Sydney singles/relationships counsellor has produced a practical book of do's, don'ts and common behavioural mistakes for Australians seeking romance.'
Sun Herald

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The Aim of This Book
Youre Only Attracted to Unavailable Types
Youre Too Clingy
You Let Drama Rule Your Life
Youre Hung Up on Past Relationships
You Have a Negative Attitude
Youre Too Bossy and Picky
You Have Friendships That Hold You Back
You Cant Sort Your Life Out
You Put Work Before Love
Youre Too Nice and Cant Say No
You Have a Problem Ex
You Have Overinvolved Parents
You Neglect Your Appearance and Health

Youre Only Into Casual Sex
You Put Exercise Before Romance

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About the author (2010)

Born in Sydney, Australia, John moved to New Zealand in his early teens. He studied for 7 years at Victoria University, Wellington, New Zealand, and graduated in 1995 with BA. Hons (1st Class). MA. Dip. Clin. Psych. His thesis received publication in the New Zealand Journal of Sports Medicine (1998). He is currently registered as a psychologist in NSW (PS0101897), and is a member of the Australian Psychological Society.

John trained as a clinical psychologist and has been working in different settings for the last 14 years. He initially worked extensively in the public sector (forensic services, hospitals, emergency services), before running his own private practice for the past 10 years. In terms of media, John was first discovered in a supermarket in 2001, and was later asked to audition for a relationship show. From this point on, he has hosted and provided expert commentary on a number of TV shows (currently a weekly regular on Channel 9's Mornings With Kerri-Anne), has had a nationwide weekly relationship advice radio show, and continues to be featured in several lifestyle magazines. In 2005, he released his first book, U-TURN: Putting You Back Into Your Relationship, and a second book is due for release in 2010. He has become a sought-after speaker as well as presenter of seminars and workshops.

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