Accidentally on Purpose: A One-Night Stand, My Unplanned Parenthood, and Loving the Best Mistake I Ever Made

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Harper Collins, Jun 3, 2008 - Biography & Autobiography - 272 pages
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At thirty-nine, movie critic Mary Pols knew she wanted to have a baby. But never—not in a million years—on her own. To take on the physical, emotional, and financial challenges of motherhood without a perfect soul mate/husband would be absurd, kind of like not bothering to use a condom during a one-night stand with an adorable but jobless guy ten years her junior.

Pols spends the ensuing weeks despairing over everything, from the financial nightmare of single motherhood to the end of her hopes for a traditional life. Not the least of her worries is finding the right way to drop the bombshell on loved ones, including her five siblings and eighty-four-year-old father, who has a German temper and an Irish Catholic attitude toward babies out of wedlock. Yet faced with the frightening, lonely truth that this might be her only chance at motherhood, she plunges ahead with the pregnancy and an Odd Couple version of a co-parenting relationship that looks like one more disaster in a long line of romantic disappointments. But even as she tries to give her son’s young father a radical makeover, she realizes that his devotion and love for their child matters more than his spotty résumé or his inability to remember to put oil in the car. With humor, insight, and compelling honesty, Pols reveals what it means to compromise in the name of love and to find joy in an accidental life, suddenly brimming with purpose.

 

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I found the author of this memoir to be alternately needy and strident, which was off-putting. It was fairly well-written and parts of it were interesting, but more of it was maddening as she ... Read full review

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This is one of the funniest books on parenting that I have read in a long time. Mary F. Pols, a film critic by day, suddenly finds herself pregnant from a one-night-stand with a 20-something year old ... Read full review

Contents

The Trojan on the Floor
3
The Magic Wand
11
Where I Came From
19
Chasing High Tides
32
Telling the Grinch
53
Living with Boys
71
Trailer Life
84
Playing House
100
Reality Doesnt Bite
149
Careers
165
ONE YEAR FROM THEN
180
The Red CableKnit Sweater
183
Orphan Girl
210
Lessons in the Impermanence of Things
250
Now
267
Acknowledgments
271

Arrivals
117
A Gift Horse
138

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About the author (2008)

Mary F. Pols is a longtime movie critic and freelance journalist based in northern California. She has written for the New York Times, Los Angeles Times, Self, and Gourmet, and her film criticism appears regularly online at MSN and Time. A former Knight Fellow at Stanford, she is an adjunct professor at the University of California, Berkeley.

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