All the Good Ones Aren't Taken: Change the Way You Date and Find Lasting Love

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Macmillan, May 15, 2007 - Family & Relationships - 320 pages
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"In All the Good Ones Aren't Taken, Dr. Debbie Magids helps us discover the hidden behavioral patterns that can prevent us from experiencing deep intimacy. With her guidance, we learn to heal the patterns that have held us back and to have faith that the universe supports us in creating the most perfect and lasting love."
- Marianne Williamson Are you ready to turn your romantic fortune around at last? Dr. Debbie has discovered eight behavior patterns that are typical of dissatisfied singles and will teach you how to recognize your romantic style, understand why you make certain relationship choices, and take powerful steps toward creating the lasting love you deserve.

The Old Faithful, longs for the one she can't have and is unable move forward

The Whirlwind Dater, constantly dates but never finds a fulfilling, permanent relationship

The Standstill, rarely dates and has a difficult time relating to men on an intimate level

The Forbidden Fruit Hunter, gets involved with emotionally unavailable men who may be married or already have a girlfriend

The Compassionate Rescuer, always dates the guy who has problems, putting her energy into "fixer-upper" boyfriends

The Wanderer, just one man is not enough to fill the void, so she always has a lover or potential boyfriend on the side

The Uptown Girl, only attracted to men with money, prestige, and looks

The Runaway Bride, good at relationships until asked to commit - then finds a way to end the relationship, pronto

If you long for a lasting, committed, loving relationship, All the Good Ones Aren't Taken has the key to unlocking your heart.

Debbie Magids, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist with a private practice in New York City. Dr. Magids has had more than ten years' experience as an academic, a clinician, and a professor, and she has been a member of the American Psychological Association since 1989.

Nancy Peske is a freelance writer and editor. Coauthor of the Cinematherapy series, she lives in Shorewood, Wisconsin, with her husband and son.

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The New York City psychologist known as "Dr. Debbie" here pinpoints a handful of women's common dating errors.Solid relationships, she says, founder on insecurity and innate negativity, and she goes ... Read full review

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I am a male in my mid 30's that was going through a separation in lieu of divorce. I was looking for answers since this particular divorce was my second. I was wondering what was wrong with me, what was wrong with my woman choices. I happened on this book donation while I was stationed in Iraq with plenty of time on my hands. This book was a practical, well written, guide to figuring out what was wrong with my relationship choices and why I was making them. I started off finding my wife's dating problems in the book, after all it is a book for women by women doctors, but then after I recieved a shocking insight, my particular flawed dating style was listed as well and I began to see how my poor relationship choices led me were determined not consciously by me, but were setup by my parent's relationship, in my particular case, my Mother's relationship with me. There was nothing seriously, uncommonly crazy about my relationship with my Mother, but subtle relationship quirks had caused me to form a unhealthy, untrue picture of myself. I recommend this book whole heartedly to men or women hurting in the throes of another confusing breakup! 

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Why Love Has Eluded You
Are You a Dissatisfied Single?
Thinking Right for a Change
Eight Styles of Dating
The Old Faithful
The Whirlwind Dater
The Standstill
The Forbidden Fruit Hunter
The Runaway Bride
Change Your Behavior and Your Life
Learn New Dance Steps Understanding and Changing the Family Dynamics That Influence You
Build Boundaries and Bridges Forging Healthier Relationships with Family Friends and Lovers
Experience All Your Feelings Recognizing and Processing Your Hidden Difficult Emotions
Embrace What Is Achieving and Maintaining a Spiritual Perspective on Your Singlehood
Dissatisfied Single No More
Happily Ever After Success Stories

The Compassionate Rescuer
The Wanderer
The Uptown Girl

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Debbie Magids, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist with a private practice in New York City.  She is a specialist in helping people become self-aware, guiding them toward discovering the hidden thoughts and feelings that drive their behavior so they can change their lives for the better. Dr. Debbie Magids' career has been diverse as she has had over ten years’ experience as an academic, a clinician, and a professor. She is the author of many articles on self-awareness and psychological issues. Dr. Magids taught at Hunter College in the Department of Educational Foundations and Counseling Programs. As a professor, she actively guided new professionals into the field of counseling. Dr. Debbie Magids has been a member of the American Psychological Association since 1989.  She can be seen as a featured guest expert on the Montel Williams show. Nancy Peske is a freelance writer, editor, book doctor, and ghostwriter. She is the co-author of the successful Cinematherapy series as well as Raising a Sensory Smart Child: The Definitive Handbook for Helping Your Child with Sensory Integration Issues. Nancy Peske lives in Shorewood, Wisconsin with her husband and son.

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