Are Those Kids Yours?: American Families With Children Adopted From Other Countries

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Simon and Schuster, Jun 15, 2010 - Family & Relationships - 256 pages
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The question “Are those kids yours?” has a familiar ring to parents who have adopted children from South Korea, India, Colombia, the Philippines, and other countries. As natural and normal as it feels to them to be together, such families are often asked to explain their obvious difference. In rich personal stories drawn from her own experience as the mother of two Korean-born daughters and from interviews with other parents and with adopted children from six to thirty, Cheri Register both affirms the normality of internationally adoptive families and highlights the special challenges they do indeed face.

The book addresses many central questions about international adoption: why children are in need of adoption outside the country of their birth, why parents choose to adopt from other countries, and how parents and children of very different origins become a “real” family.

International adoption is a controversial matter in countries from which children are coming to the United States, but adoptive families have had little voice as yet in the debate. With honest, thoughtful analysis honed by personal experience, Register addresses the ethical issues inevitably raised by adoption across lines of culture, race, and social class: Are parents in the wealthier nations entitled to raise children left homeless in other parts of the world by poverty or social stigma? Is placement in another country an appropriate solution for children whose parents cannot raise them?

Insightful, comprehensive, and eloquent, Are Those Kids Yours? is a unique resource for parents raising internationally adopted children and for those who are contemplating intercountry adoption as well as for the children as they grow up, their extended families and friends, and adoption and mental health professionals.

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This was a really good book dealing with the issues of a trans-racial adoption. I enjoyed reading it and learned alot. I would definately recommend this one to anyone else adopting across racial lines. Read full review

"Are those kids yours?": American families with children adopted from other countries

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As the adoptive mother of two Korean girls, Register has often been presented with this remark, either spoken or implied. Yes, the girls are "hers,'' now, but the question does bring out some of the ... Read full review


1 Children in Need of Families
2 Families in Search of Children
3 Making the Match
4 Coming Together
5 Becoming a Family
6 Telling the Story
7 What Are You?
8 Back to Beginnings
9 The Global Family
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Cheri Register often tells people her University of Chicago Ph.D. really stands for "Packinghouse Daughter." The opening chapter of "Packinghouse Daughter" was cited as a Notable Essay in "Best American Essays 1996." Other excerpts have appeared in "Hungry Mind Review, University of Chicago Magazine, " and the book "Is Academic Feminism Dead?" Her work on this memoir has earned a Jerome Travel and Study Grant, a Minnesota State Arts Board Fellowship, and grants from the Loft Literary Center and the Minnesota Historical Society. Her other books include "The Chronic Illness Experience: Embracing the Imperfect Life" (formerly titled "Living with Chronic Illness: Days of Patience and Passion") and ""Are Those Kids Yours?": American Families with Children Adopted from Other Countries." She has published many essays in magazines, literary journals, and anthologies, and is known for her early work in feminist literary criticism and Scandinavian literature. A writer of creative nonfiction, Register now teaches writing at the Loft Literary Center in Minneapolis, where she also lives.

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