Are You Guys Brothers?
Same-sex intimacy, particularly between males, can be a challenge to maintain for gay and bisexual men, and extremely threatening to heterosexual men. Are You Guys Brothers?, a question asked of male couples throughout the world, is a very personal and candid look at the topic through the lens of an immensely happy and successful 32-year relationship. Brian McNaught and Ray Struble, both Irish Catholic, Midwestern children of seven, met in Boston in their twenties as one was beginning a career as a "gay activist" and the other was entering the world of commercial banking. Their love became the envy of their families and friends, marked by open communication, good humor, patience, and spirituality. They would need all four to navigate the mine-filled waters of childhood sexual abuse, alcoholism, intense religious and political opposition, dramatically-disparate incomes, a sexually-open relationship, aging, erectile dysfunction, and an often unsupportive and frequently dysfunctional gay community. Today, they are officially married, and the "gay activist" is now educating his spouse's former Wall Street colleagues on gay issues in offices around the world. This book is funny, deeply moving, and highly instructive, of particular interest to gay men and women who seek guidance in building and maintaining their relationships, and to heterosexual men and women worldwide who want to better understand not only gay people but also how to get past the roadblocks to intimacy in their own relationships.
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RespectUser Review - grady1 - Borders
'Our freedom to become whole comes at the price of letting go of our expectations, even one as seemingly noble as making everyone happy.' This phrase in many ways brings together the messages of this ... Read full review
So offensive that this "diversity trainer" Brian McNaught claims to teach respect for differences but doesn't practice it. In Tupper Lake Free Press on 10.17.12, he berated the Sierra Club and individuals standing up for what they believe. He called them disgruntled, obstinate, nuisance, stubborn and mean spirited. But has never spoken w/them? Is this part of his teachings? The words he uses re: people w/different opinions-sure are similar to what is said about LGBT community. Another hypocrite!