Basic Black: Home Training for Modern Times

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Doubleday, 1996 - Reference - 473 pages
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Some call it polite behavior, or good manners. Others call it proper breeding, but to most African Americans its simply called "home training." Now in "Basic Black," authors Karen Grigsby Bates and Karen E. Hudson offer a modern guide for gracious living.

Contrary to the more traditional etiquette books that most African Americans may find stodgy, off-putting, and culturally alien, "Basic Black" is for real people who live "real" lives--and addresses many of the issues of a growing black middle class who want to live "riche" without seeming "noveau." Straightforward, user-friendly and illustrated with line drawings, "Basic Black" includes all the information any well-mannered person would want to know about the social rites of passage (marriage, birth, christening, death), the new corporate workplace (standard work issues and the more delicate issue of race and its impact in an integrated workplace), various occasions (having guests or being a guest at one's summer home, etc.), and everyday rules and rituals that make living in hectic times a little easier.

For singles and families alike, "Basic Black" takes the mystery out of conventional etiquette and will arm the reader with the ability to be comfortable and confident in just about any situation.

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Contents

Introduction
3
It Goed Without Saying
9
Lift Evry Voice
17
Be a Friend
26
Bedt Foot Forward
39
Keeping Up with the Jonesed
46
Getting to the Church on Time Order of Service Making a Joyful Noise
56
Strictly Speaking
69
Common Courtesies City Buses Subways LightRail Trains Taxis
201
Welcoming New Neighbors Looking Out for Each Other When Youre
209
Own Club Coalescing with Other Groups Conventions Womens
219
Dating Mating and Begetting
239
Who Pays for Whatand How When He Asks Her When
253
Function at the Junction
279
Hostess with the Mostest
294
Let the Party Begin
304

Speaking to You Knowing What to Say in Uncomfortable Situations Best
75
Answering the Telephone Answering the Telephone in Someone Elses Home
90
An Integrated System Just Your Type Popular Papers Afrocentric
106
The Complete Seminar
111
Sharing the Rule Book When Grown Children Move Back In Hiring
117
Sparkle Plenty Wearing AgeAppropriate Clothes Excuse Me Is It After
126
FingerLickin Good
141
Eating Out
147
Thoughtfulness and the Personal Touch Gifts of Time and Thoughtfulness
163
Tips and Gratuities
179
Parties and Celebration
314
Moveable Feasts
327
Be a Good Guedt
333
To Love Honor and Cheruh
356
And Thu Too Shall Pass
409
Swing Low Sweet Chariot
419
And Furthermore
435
In Cue Youre Wondering
440
You Tell U
461
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About the author (1996)

KAREN GRIGSBY BATES , a contributing columnist for the op-ed pages of the Los Angeles Times, has written for Vogue, The New York Times, Quarterly Black Review of Books, Essence, Emerge, and other publications. Her commentaries frequently appear on National Public Radio’s "All Things Considered." KAREN E. HUDSON is the author of Paul R. Williams, Architect: A Legacy of Style, a biography of her maternal grandfather, and The Will and the Way: Paul R. Williams, Architect, a biography for young people. They both live in Los Angeles.


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