Being Genuine: Stop Being Nice, Start Being Real

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PuddleDancer Press, 2007 - Family & Relationships - 302 pages
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In this English translation of the French bestseller, readers will learn simple, practical skills to step outside of their emotional masks to live a genuine, authentic life. Teaching everyday communication skills to respectfully express true feelings and the power of requesting wants without demands or force, readers learn how to tackle life's difficult situations and conversations with ease and even excitement. Topics include ideas and advice on how to identify feelings and needs without blaming others, honest and respectful self-expression, facing conflict with ease, and finding balance by staying connected to basic needs.
 

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I particularly love the theme of Compassionate Communication and therefore giving us Empathic & Nonviolent Communication (NVC) clues around 12 efficient strategies! Useless to say how this would be ... Read full review

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An excellent book about the art of Non-Violent Communication a concept. I found it more helpful than Marshall Rosenberg's book as it started with the premiss that 1st we need to work on our own ... Read full review

Contents

Moving from Being Nice to Being Genuine
1
Introduction
7
Why We Are Alienated from Ourselves
13
1 Intellect or observation
15
2 Feelings
19
3 Needs or values
26
4 The Request or concrete and negotiable action
37
Becoming Aware of What We Are Truly Experiencing
47
Beyond the No What Are We Saying Yes to?
188
Sharing Information and Our Values
199
Breakwater or Beacon Barbed Wire or Shepherd?
209
Meaningfulness and Freedom
219
What about the Use of Force and Punishment?
220
Celebrating the Intensity of Life
225
Method
231
Healthy Consciousness
233

Observing without Judging or Interpreting
54
Feeling without Judging or Interpreting
69
Identifying Our Needs without Projecting Them onto Others
80
Formulating a Concrete Realistic Positive Negotiable Request
98
Becoming Aware of What Others Are Truly Experiencing
105
Listening without Judging
115
Being Present with Oneself and Others
129
Creating a Space to Connect
155
Heads Together
156
Facing the Façade
158
All Wells End Well
159
Dancing Gently toward Each Other
160
Cherishing a Relationship
161
Talking Places
164
Emotional Security and Meaning Two Keys to Peace
167
Off with the Masks
181
Convivial Consciousness
234
Cultivating Peace
237
Violence an Old Habit
238
Cultivating Peace
240
Footnotes
241
Bibliography
243
Index
245
Some Basic Feelings We All Have
255
How You Can Use the NVC Process
256
About PuddleDancer Press
257
About CNVC and NVC
258
Trade Books from PuddleDancer Press
259
Trade Booklets from PuddleDancer Press
265
About the Author
266
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About the author (2007)

Thomas d'Ansembourg is a former lawyer and legal advisor who now helps at-risk youth.