Beyond the Mommy Years: How to Live Happily Ever After...After the Kids Leave Home

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Grand Central Publishing, Aug 14, 2008 - Family & Relationships - 352 pages
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Thirty million mothers between 40 and 60 years old are about to face childless households for the first time in decades. For some women, it is a lonely and confusing time; but for the vast majority, it's a journey of joy and discovery. Through intensive and wide-ranging original research, author Carin Rubenstein reveals how and why some mothers thrive and others do not. She breaks the post-motherhood launch down into three stages--grief, relief, and joy. If a woman makes it through to the final stage, friendships blossom, work thrives, and she develops a renewed sense of confidence and well-being. While in many instances, increased time together hastens the end of a struggling marriage, most women discover their relationships improve when children leave. BEYOND THE MOMMY YEARS offers fascinating research, helpful advice, and amusing anecdotes to the millions facing this uncertain but potentially enriching stage of life.

"An encouraging counterarguement to the idea that an empty nest leads to an empty life."--Library Journal

"Carin Rubenstein, PhD., nails it: Any woman worried about her post-car pool life should read this book."--Sally Koslow, mother of two sons in their twenties, and author of Little Pink Slips

"Beyond the Mommy Years bridges the knowledge void felt by so many moms after their children leave for college...A thoughtful discussion of the positive changes that lie ahead for mothers after our children are launched. While parenting never ends, this book provides moms with the tools to live a rich and full life."--Linda Perlman Gordon & Susan Morris Shaffer, co-authors of Mom, Can I Move Back in with You?


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Approximately 30 million mothers will have childless households and adult children in the coming decades, signifying a major shift in the lives of baby-boomer women. Social psychologist Rubenstein ... Read full review


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Coming Into Your Own Again

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Dr. Carin Rubenstein holds a Ph.D. in social/personality psychology from New York University, with a focus on survey research and is a member of the American Psychological Association. She has been conducting national polls for several decades and assisted Gail Sheehy in her research. Dr. Rubenstein is the coauthor of In Search of Intimacy and author of "The Sacrificial Mother" and "Beyond the Mommy Years". She has designed and analyzed dozens of national surveys for a wide range of magazines, has contributed to "The New York Times", and has appeared on dozens of national and local television and radio shows to talk about her work, including "Today", "Good Morning America", "The View" and "Oprah".

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