Born to Win: Keeping Your Firstborn Edge Without Losing Your Balance

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Revell, Oct 1, 2009 - Self-Help - 288 pages
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Firstborns are the natural movers, shakers, and leaders of the world. They can accomplish anything they set their minds to. They're the high achievers, the benchmark setters, the business moguls, the concert violinists, the heads of the PTA. But if they're out of balance, they can be overly perfectionistic, driven, and critical. They can become controllers (everything has to go their way) or pleasers (they exhaust themselves in meeting the demands of others).

Now available in trade paper, Born to Win identifies the qualities of firstborns . . . and there's a catch. Just because someone is the firstborn child in the family doesn't mean they'll have a firstborn personality. They can be third in a group of four siblings and still have a firstborn personality! Dr. Kevin Leman reveals why.

He helps firstborns understand their natural advantages--while becoming aware of their weaknesses and learning how to sidestep them--for the highest level of personal success at home, at school, at work, and in relationships. And he helps those who live or work with firstborns to understand them better. This fun, informative, and practical book will keep readers engaged and provide many "aha!" moments.

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User Review  - Linda -

This book helps first borns better cope with their quirks and maintain good relationships with both first borns and others. I would recommend this to anyone who is or lives or works with a firstborn. Besides being useful information, it is a joy to read, Read full review

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User Review  - JoJo -

I'm yet in the process of reading this book, but I have found it to be quite interesting thus far. If your a firstborn and not sure where you fit in or should I say still trying to find "yourself", then this may be the book for you. Read full review


Whats This Birth Order Business About Anyway?
Whos on First?
The Firstborn Personality
Why Firstborns Are the Way They Are
Where Do I Go to Buy One of Those Firstborns?
The Firstborn Advantage at Home
The Firstborn Advantage at School
The Firstborn Advantage at Work
The Firstborn Advantage in Relationships
Making the Most ofBeing a Firstborn

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Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known psychologist, humorist, and bestselling author of The Birth Order Book and Have a New Kid by Friday. He is former consulting psychologist for Good Morning America and a frequent guest on The View, The Early Show, and Focus on the Family. He and his wife, Sande, live in Tucson, Arizona. They have five children and two grandchildren.

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