Born to Win: Transactional Analysis with Gestalt Experiments

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Da Capo Press, 1996 - Psychology - 299 pages
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In this enriching volume, Dr. Muriel James, co-author of "Passion for Life: Psychlogy and the Human Spirit, " and Dr. Dorothy Jongeward, show that every person has the potential to be a winner: to be an authentic, alive, responsive, fulfilled human being. An imaginative guide for self-analysis, discovery and growth - complete with experiments and exercises you can do by yourself - "Born to Win" uses psychological insights to increase your awareness of the real power you have to direct your own life, to make decisions, to develop your own ethical system, to enhance the lives of others - and to understand that you were "Born To Win."
 

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Contents

WINNERS AND LOSERS
1
Losers
3
Tools for Change
6
Frederick Perls and Gestalt Therapy
7
Eric Berne and Transactional Analysis
11
Summary
12
Experiments and Exercises
13
WinnerLoser Continuum
14
Experiments and Exercises
151
Getting in Touch with Your Childhood
152
Fantasy Awareness
153
Loss of a Parent
155
Your Little Professor
156
You as a Natural Child
158
PERSONAL AND SEXUAL IDENTITY
160
Identity through Play
164

RolePlaying an Inner Dialogue
15
AN OVERVIEW OF TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS
16
Development of Ego States
23
Introduction to Analyzing Transactions
24
The Games People Play
31
Days of Decision
34
Psychological Positions
35
Sexuality and Psychological Positions
37
Introduction to Script Analysis
38
Summary
39
Experiments and Exercises
41
Analyzing a Transaction
42
Your Sexual OKness fantasy
43
THE HUMAN HUNGER FOR STROKES AND TIME STRUCTURING
44
Positive Stroking
46
Discounting and Negative Stroking
50
The Hunger for Structured Time
56
Summary
63
Experiments and Exercises
64
You and Recognition
65
You and Time Structuring
66
Your Capacity for Intimacy
67
THE DRAMA OF LIFE SCRIPTS
68
Scripts
69
Cultural Scripts
70
Subcultural Scripts
74
Family Scripts
75
Psychological Scripts of an Individual
78
How Scripting Occurs
79
Scripts with a Curse
82
Counterscripts
84
Script Themes
90
Script Themes in Childrens Stories
92
Summary
95
Experiments and Exercises
97
Cultural and Family Scripting
98
PARENTING AND THE PARENT EGO STATE
101
Outward Expression of the Parent Ego State
103
Inner Influence of the Parent Ego State
105
Nurturing Parent
108
Prejudicial Parent
110
The Incomplete Parent Ego State
111
Reparenting
114
Summary
115
Experiments and Exercises
118
Your Parents Attitudes
123
How Are You Like Your Parents?
124
Your Parent Ego States
125
Naikan Therapy Japanese selfobservation method
126
CHILDHOOD AND THE CHILD EGO STATE
127
The Natural Child
128
The Little Professor
131
The Adapted Child
135
Shifts between the Natural and Adapted Child
141
Activating the Child Ego State
142
Summary
144
Childhood Psychological Games and Role Identity
167
Sexual Identity
168
Sexual Expression
172
Summary
178
Experiments and Exercises
179
Your Childhood Play
180
Your Current Play
182
Your Psychological Games
184
Your Sexual Feelings and Behavior Now
186
STAMP COLLECTING AND GAME PLAYING
188
Psychological Trading Stamps
189
The Time of Redemption
195
The Sweatshirt Message
198
Games Played from the Child Ego State
199
The Yes But Game
201
The Lets You and Him Fight Game
202
The Uproar Game
203
The Courtroom Game
206
The Cops and Robbers Game
207
Summary
208
Experiments and Exercises
209
Integrating Old Feelings
210
Tracing Old Feelings
219
Your Sweatshirt Messages
220
THE ADULT EGO STATE
223
The Adult Ego State
224
Ego State Boundaries
226
Lax Ego Boundaries
227
Rigid Ego Boundaries
228
Contamination of the Adult
231
Boundary Lesions
234
Placating Your Parent
239
Activating and Strengthening the Adult Ego State
241
Days of Despair
247
Summary
248
Experiments and Exercises
252
Breaking Out of Your Bash Trap
253
Examining Constant Parent Constant Adult and Constant Child
254
Your Ego State Portrait
256
Decontaminating Your Adult
257
Learning from Your Projections
258
Learning from Your Dreams
259
ProblemSolving Technique
260
AUTONOMY AND ADULT ETHICS
263
Awareness
264
Spontaneity
265
Intimacy
266
The Integrated Adult
269
Adult Feelings
271
Adult Ethics
272
Epilogue
274
Experiments and Exercises
276
Adult Questions on Your Life
277
FOOTNOTES AND REFERENCES
278
INDEX
287
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About the author (1996)

Muriel James, Ed.D, is a psychotherapist and international workshop leader, a minister in the United Church of Christ, and past president of the International Transactional Analysis Association. Dorothy Jongeward, Ph.D., one of the first management consultants to focus on the interpersonal side of productivity, taught for many years on the extension faculty of the University of California, Berkeley.

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