Can Love Last?: The Fate of Romance over Time

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W. W. Norton & Company, Feb 17, 2003 - Family & Relationships - 224 pages

"A beautiful and brilliant reexamination of love and its perils."—Barbara Fisher, Boston Globe

Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A. Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships—it becomes increasingly dangerous. What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management. Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks. "Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it."—Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon "[A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered."—Publishers Weekly "Cheerful, open, and humane—you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst."—Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review "[T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic."—JoAnn Gutin, Salon.com
 

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This rather dry academic treatise on romantic love was written by a well-regarded clinician and supervising analyst at the William Alanson White Institute. Mitchell, who died in 2000, was the author ... Read full review

Contents

Foreword
12
Introduction
22
Safety and Adventure
32
The Strange Loops of Sexuality
59
Idealization Fantasy and Illusions
94
Aggression and the Danger of Desire
120
Guilt and SelfPity
146
Control and Commitment in Romantic Love
173
Notes
203
Index
218
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Stephen A. Mitchell died in 2000 at the pinnacle of his career as a theorist and clinician. He is the author of Freud and Beyond.

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