Caring for Your Parents: The Complete Family Guide

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Sterling Publishing Company, Inc., 2008 - Family & Relationships - 238 pages
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Drawing on AARP’s deep wellspring of expertise in the topic, AARP’s Caring for Your Parents offers both sensitive counsel and a practical road map through the complex emotional terrain many of us face as our parents age. This eye-opening book guides readers through a new, creative approach to caregiving that turns familial duty into a journey of emotional development and resolution.
Based on a 32-page National Magazine Award-nominated special feature, Caring for Your Parents documents the innovative ways that real people cope with this age-old issue. Throughout the book you will find useful, field-tested recommendations from AARP’s staff of experts. Topics explored in depth run the gamut from locating quality health care and dealing with the bureaucracy of Medicare to avoiding consumer scams, organizing caregiving from afar, and planning the disposition of an estate. There are tips on designing your parents’ house to make it more elder-friendly, navigating the hidden dangers of assisted living, and dealing with the invisible sibling issue. A resource guide in each chapter lists help lines, websites, and consumer action groups.
Thirty million Americans are looking for a new, more effective approach to eldercare. Caring for Your Parents is the answer.

 

 

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Contents

Bringing Up the Subject
11
The New Touchy Subject
12
Competing Agendas
13
Ghosts in the Room
14
Beyond EitherOr
15
The PreTalk Talk
16
What Could They Be Thinking?
18
Breaking the Ice
20
Resources
119
The Medicare Maze
121
The ABCDs of Medicare
123
Hospital Insurance
125
Medical Insurance
126
Medicare Advantage
127
Prescription Drug Benefit
130
Filling in the MediGap
136

Organizing a Family Meeting
23
The Actual Talk
26
Resources
27
The Sibling Balancing Act
29
Resentment Take 2
30
Opening the Lines
31
To Bring Them Together Again
34
Old Family Scripts
36
Cultural Imperatives
41
Resources
43
Your Parents Best Advocate
45
The Organized Advocate
46
Managing Health Care
48
Hospital Bills and Insurance Claims
54
Dealing with Nursing Homes
55
Scam Alert
57
Lawyering Up
59
Resources
62
Money Matters
65
Sizing Up the Situation
66
And the Bottom Line Is
69
Things Look Good for Now Whats Next?
70
The Question of LongTerm Care
75
Do Your Homework
76
Reality Knocks
80
Resources
81
The Body
83
What Is Normal Aging?
84
Choosing a Doctor
85
A Pound of Prevention
87
The Changing Senses
92
Common Ailments
95
Didnt Sleep a Wink
99
Resources
101
The Brain
103
The Truth About Depression
105
No Turning Back
107
Everything Has an Air of Strangeness
112
The Road Ahead
115
Blinded by the Fine Print
138
Resources
139
Living Arrangements
141
Staying Put
142
DayTripping
145
Making Room for Mom or Dad
148
Independent Living 101
151
When a Nursing Home Makes Sense
155
Resources
157
Caring for the Caregiver
159
The Hidden Patients
160
The Stress factor
161
Making Yourself a Priority
163
Lightening the Load
165
Give the Pros a Chance
168
Resources
171
Saying Goodbye
173
A New Intimacy
174
Making Arrangements Ahead of Time
176
Achieving Closure
177
The Hospice Solution
179
Getting Down to What Was Good
181
Resources
187
The Shape of Tomorrow
189
The Phases of Grief
191
Variations on a Theme
192
Yourself and Others
194
The Rightness of Ritual
196
The Stages of Healing
198
A New Way of Being Together
200
Resources
201
AFTERWORD
203
APPENDIX
209
GLOSSARY
227
ABOUT THE AUTHORS
231
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
232
INDEX
233
PHOTOGRAPHY CREDITS
238
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Hugh Delehanty is a former editor for Sports Illustrated and People. He is also the coauthor of Phil Jackson's bestselling memoir Sacred Hoops.

Mary Pipher, Ph.D., is the author of three bestselling books, including Reviving Ophelia, which was on the New York Times bestseller list for over 2 years. She speaks all over the country all year and has received a presidential citation from the American Psychological Association. She lives in Lincoln, Nebraska.

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